Jim Loehr Quotes

Relationships have to have a give and take if they're going to work in the long term.

Collaboration is a multilane highway, going in all directions. If there isn't reciprocity, it fails, and it's unsatisfying.

I think its wonderful to have a relationship where you both go out and live your lives, and you bring something to the table because you've had other interactions.

Any person in a relationship has to see what they gain from those things and if it's worth what you have to sacrifice to be in a relationship. I don't think that's a terrible thing.

To truly love we must learn to mix various ingredients - care, affection, recognition, respect, commitment, and trust, as well as honest and open communication.

Relationships are all about trust and equality. If one person shares, then the other person should share, too.

I want to feel good, I want to feel proud, I want to feel that I give someone enough and that I get enough.

If you just stop and think, baby, honey, love is a funny thing. Whatever you put in, that's what you expect to gain.

I don't think love is a tricky issue at all. Love is best understood when we share: Share time, energy, food, resources, insights, information, whatever. It's usually thought of as something that exists between two people, but that's just because it's easier to see and feel in the space between them. Each person is sharing a lot with the other.

It takes a lot of experience of life to see why some relationships last and others do not. But we do not have to wait for a crisis to get an idea of the future of a particular relationship. Our behavior in little every incidents tells us a great deal.

Relationships are a constant negotiation and balance.

Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. 'Use' is a dirty word only when there's an imbalance in the relationship.

A woman doesn't just love a man. She loves who he is. And, who he is is dependent on what he needs.

Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world, we have to act in concert with others, but to survive as ourselves, rather than simply as cogs in a wheel, we have to act alone.

You cannot work with men who won't work with you.

I think as humans we do want to control our relationships, and you can't. It's probably better that you can't. That wouldn't be a real relationship, and we'd never learn and grow.

A band is like a marriage, and if you're in a marriage with someone, and you lose yourself in that marriage, the relationship is over, really.

I think when you're in a relationship, either you have something or your partner generally has something that you're having to deal with.

I talk to my friends and, you know, they all seem to get relationships that aren't right. You kind of want someone who is not at your beck and call but loves the idea of being in a relationship and what that entails.

In our relationship, we don't have that situation. I don't require what he needs, and he doesn't require what I need. I know what I do; I have an amazing life that nobody knows about.

I've always thought with relationships, that it's more about what you bring to the table than what you're going to get from it. It's very nice if you sit down and the cake appears. But if you go to the table expecting cake, then it's not so good.

The worst thing I could be accused of is that I'm a one-way dude, only out for myself. But the worst thing a woman can do is not to say anything. Especially when you're starting a relationship.

Perhaps my problem in marriage - and it is the problem of many women - was to want both intimacy and independence. It is a difficult line to walk, yet both needs are important to a marriage.

Ideally, people find mates with whom they can express both their masculine and feminine sides.

Unfortunately, I think we've probably all had the experience that if we're in a relationship where one of the partners is doing it 'my' way, that relationship is not going to survive.