Sophie Kinsella Quotes

Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. 'Use' is a dirty word only when there's an imbalance in the relationship.

There cannot be friendship without equality.

I believe in singularity in relationships because you've got to have trust on both sides.

Relationships have to have a give and take if they're going to work in the long term.

In other relationships, it may be permissible to overpower people, but not between people who are living together. That relationship is supposed to be between equals.

Trust implies that both parties participate in the relationship with both 'gives' and 'gets.'

I don't think any relation can work if one dominates. It has to be an equal relation for it to be successful and happy.

Loyalty is not unilateral. You have to give it to receive it.

If you don't underestimate me, I won't underestimate you.

Respect is not a one way street

In fact, I think that's my favorite word and the most important word when it comes to relationships: equality.

The pulse of a strong relationship involves a rhythmic movement between giving and taking, talking and listening, valuing the other person and feeling commensurately valued in return.

Friendship is seldom lasting but between equals, or where the superiority on one side is reduced by some equivalent advantage on the other.

Love either finds equality or makes it.

Love needs the stiffening of respect, the give and take of equality.

It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them.

In the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.

I don't think it's really possible to share someone in most cases.

It was a mutual relationship.

Women tend to take care of men a lot, but I like a guy who balances that out and takes care of me, too.

If you just stop and think, baby, honey, love is a funny thing. Whatever you put in, that's what you expect to gain.

I don't think love is a tricky issue at all. Love is best understood when we share: Share time, energy, food, resources, insights, information, whatever. It's usually thought of as something that exists between two people, but that's just because it's easier to see and feel in the space between them. Each person is sharing a lot with the other.

I love being a wife and homemaker - because it's my choice. My husband doesn't expect me to do it. I don't mind doing things for him because he does so much for me; we both feel that way so there is no power struggle.

Relationships are a constant negotiation and balance.

Where love rules, there is no will to power; and where power predominates, there love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other.