Twyla Tharp Quotes

I played on teams with 24 guys pulling the rope one way and one guy pulling the other. I've seen how destructive it can be. I tell them, 'If 13 of you are insanely successful and one fails, we all lose.'

Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world, we have to act in concert with others, but to survive as ourselves, rather than simply as cogs in a wheel, we have to act alone.

In other relationships, it may be permissible to overpower people, but not between people who are living together. That relationship is supposed to be between equals.

Politics is not really different from marriage. You cannot get things done in your relationship if you tell your wife: Look, if you haven't made the bed and if you don't get the food on the table, I will go and just hire someone and you will become irrelevant. That is not how you make a marriage work.

It takes a lot of experience of life to see why some relationships last and others do not. But we do not have to wait for a crisis to get an idea of the future of a particular relationship. Our behavior in little every incidents tells us a great deal.

Husbands and wives generally understand when opposition will be vain.

Relationships are a constant negotiation and balance.

Relationships are negotiated and if you deal with ultimatums and authority all the time, then you're not going to get anywhere.

You cannot work with men who won't work with you.

A band is like a marriage, and if you're in a marriage with someone, and you lose yourself in that marriage, the relationship is over, really.

To work with someone you love is something special, an incredible experience. But it could be a negative. You have to make a strong commitment to be honest; you're not just being polite, like strangers on an airplane; you're working.

We cannot always do what is absolutely best. Those with whom we act, entertaining different views, have the power and the right of carrying them into practice

I understand from experience that unity is easy to call for, but it takes the right kind of leadership to achieve.

Heck, nobody gets along perfectly. But what we have is respect for one another. We have a system where one guy can veto anything.

I don't think any relation can work if one dominates. It has to be an equal relation for it to be successful and happy.

As it happens in relationships that are open and frank and based on mutual respect, you say things as you think them, and this doesn't mean that you don't work together in a constructive way.

If you don't have to have a partner, don't take one. If you do need one, look for a partner who can complement your weaknesses with their strengths. If you are at odds, you are never going to get anything done.

I think both husband and wife should have busy minds, not see too much of each other, but not too little either: just get it right. If both are healthy in their heads and satisfied with their day's work, the partnership works.

It should be easier to play opposite my wife.

I found it an interesting portrait of a marriage in exploring notions of how one partner supports the other, whilst not jeopardizing the greater good - which is the family.

My brother and I have too good a relationship to spoil it by working together.

The best part of being married is, everything we face in life, we face as a team. I don't do a thing - professionally or personally - without discussing it with my wife.

But I believe that there are marriages where you can have your pool table and she can have her scrapbooking room or garden or whatever it is. But when everyone has what they want, it's not funny. There's no conflict.

Businesses that run well are almost like marriages. Everything has to be up for discussion, or there will be real problems.

If someone had told me years ago that sharing a sense of humour was so vital to partnerships, I could have avoided a lot of sex!