Carl Rogers Quotes

In love we are not only liable to betray ourselves, but also the secrets of others.

We can't be intimate because we can't share feelings that we don't have.

When you are really in love, you become vulnerable, and insecurities come out of nowhere.

If we want the advantages of love, then we must be willing to take the risks of love. And that requires vulnerability. Of course, we can refuse this path and trod another one devoid of openness. But the toll on such a road is extremely high.

I’ve won his heart, but it’s like owning a house in which most of the doors are permanently locked. He wants to shield me from all unpleasantness. And it’s not really marriage—not like the marriage you have with Cam—until he’s willing to share the worst of himself as well as the best of himself.

I think intimacy is a word that's used more physically than it needs to be. There are times in your life, sometimes it's when you fall in love with someone and sometimes it's when someone saves your life.

There is one province in which, sooner or later, virtually everyone gets dealt a leading role--hero, heroine, or villain.... Unlike the slight implications of quotidian dilemmas that confront the average citizen in other areas of life ... the stakes in this realm could not be higher. For chances are that at some point along the line you will hold in your hands another person's heart. There is no greater responsibility on the planet. However you contend with this fragile organ, which pounds or seizes in accordance with your caprice, will take your full measure.

I want to open myself, let him inside. But how do I give what has already been taken?

True love is about being able to accept raw emotions, no matter how difficult.

You can never be sure of anyone until you're close enough to see them clearly.

Because letting someone in close meant they could hurt you. I knew all about that kind of fear. I lived with it.

We all have our scars. That's what falling is love is all about: revealing your scars to somebody who then loves you anyway.

I really like older British guys - I don't think any of them would ever have a problem with crying in front of a woman or saying "I love you" or "You hurt me" or emotional stuff like that.

I wished to punish her for her intolerable stoicism, which made it impossible for me to ever be truly needed by her in the most profound ways a person can need another, a need that often goes by the name of love.

My whole thing is, if you love me, then love me. If you don't, then believe what you hear and run with that.

"Aren't you frightened?" Somehow I expected her to say no, to say something wise like a grownup would, or to explain that we can't presume to understand the Lord's plan. She looked away. "Yes," she finally said, "I'm frightened all the time." "Then why don't you act like it?" "I do. I just do it in private." "Because you don't trust me?" "No," she said, "because I know you're frightened, too."

When you trust someone, you don't need to know everything.

Just the fact that you need me to prove I love you is probably a clue it isn’t working

It seems we need someone to know us as we are - with all we have done - and forgive us. We need to tell. We need to be whole in someone's sight: Know this about me, and yet love me. Please.

It's so easy to love. The only hard thing is to be loved. [Vincent Van Gogh]

They could fall in love with fresh, new people, or they could have the courage and humility to tear off some essential layer of themselves and reveal to each other a whole new level of otherness, a level far beyond what sort of music they liked. It seemed to her everyone had too much self-protective pride to truly strip down to their souls in front of their long-term partners. It was easier to pretend there was nothing more to know, to fall into an easygoing companionship. It was almost embarrassing to

I've had your tears with mine, and you've had mine with yours. I think that's more intimate even than a kiss.

It's rare in movies or even in life where somebody owns up to their needs. I guess in a relationship it's the only way it has a chance to survive it.

I'm interested in taking things from my relationship that I don't see on screen - or that I feel like that could be useful or helpful if it were out in the open - and trying to put that in the movies as much as possible.

If honesty is the key to intimacy, it means we don't have to be perfect and we don't have to pretend to be perfect.