Joel Madden Quotes

I don't know if you're married, but sometimes there are times where one is really together with their partner. And then there are times when you're both just in your own thing, but you're there together.

Constant togetherness is fine - but only for Siamese twins.

The further from one another, the nearer one can be.

In her previous novels, Maggie O'Farrell has often measured the distance between intimates and the unexpected intimacy of distance - geographic, temporal, cultural. In 'The Hand That First Held Mine' and 'The Distance Between Us,' characters separated by many miles or many years turn out to be joined in ways they never anticipated.

Do we need distance to get close?

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.

The longest absence is less perilous to love than the terrible trials of incessant proximity.

Interestingly, the best way to promote intimacy is to demand it.

For when two beings who are not friends are near each other there is no meeting, and when friends are far apart there is no separation.

Love, the magician, knows this little trick whereby two people walk in different directions yet always remain side by side.

Admiration and familiarity are strangers.

Since women ask me about male motives all the time, I can offer a bit of advice. If you feel like you're going to get hurt then you shouldn't be there in the first place. That's the way I look at relationships.

Intimacy is not a happy medium. It is a way of being in which the tension between distance and closeness is dissolved and a new horizon appears. Intimacy is beyond fear.

The married are those who have taken the terrible risk of intimacy and, having taken it, know life without intimacy to be impossible.

That's one of the great lies of intimacy, to pretend you know everything - you cannot. No matter how close you've been, over however many years, there remain secrets. I think we all know that - that you don't tell everybody everything.

How we need another soul to cling to.

We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.

In our world of rampant 'individualisation', relationships are mixed blessings. They vacillate between a sweet dream and a nightmare, and there is no telling when one turns into the other.

Love is made by two people, in different kinds of solitude. It can be in a crowd, but in an oblivious crowd.

Sometimes, an afternoon spent in bed with someone can be the most important thing in the universe.

I don't fear commitment and people in my world getting too close.

I think there's such a fine line in a relationship. The role of imagination and privacy... how much space can you allow before that becomes distance? And similarly, imagination is empathy. That's how you achieve empathy. It's how you can be with another person and understand how they are in the world.

I never want to feel too far away from people. I think that's when you get in trouble.

I am learning to live close to the lives of my friends without ever seeing them. No miles of any measurement can separate your soul from mine.

Intimacy requires courage because risk is inescapable. We cannot know at the outset how the relationship will affect us. Like a chemical mixture, if one of us is changed, both of us will be. Will we grow in self-actualization, or will it destroy us? The one thing we can be certain of is that if we let ourselves fully into the relationship for good or evil, we will not come out unaffected.