Victoria Billings Quotes

But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

In any relationship, after the first year is over, you can't help but want your own space.

The best thing is being really close. The worst thing is being really close.

I don't know if you're married, but sometimes there are times where one is really together with their partner. And then there are times when you're both just in your own thing, but you're there together.

No one worth possessing can be quite possessed.

To grow mature is to separate more distinctly, to connect more closely.

I've never really lived with somebody. Only for very brief periods. I learned I'm not a good roommate. I'm better off when we visit each other. I like the mystery.

There's the bond of a connection and the bond of bondage... When you are connected to somebody, everything each one does affects the other, and it's a kind of bondage. You're not as free as you would be if that person wasn't in your life.

Never say never, I find I get claustrophobic in a relationship.

Let there be spaces in your togetherness...just as strings of a lute dance alone though they quiver with the same music.

It's vital to have your own space so you aren't constantly in each other's pockets.

Intimacy requires an ability to both merge and be separate, to come together and be apart, like oscillating on a giant swing from oneness to separateness, creating a constant rhythm.

The mother-child relationship is paradoxical and, in a sense, tragic. It requires the most intense love on the mother's side, yet this very love must help the child grow away from the mother, and to become fully independent.

I think everybody has the right to a private life.

I think love has something to do with allowing a person you claim to love to enter a larger arena than the one you create for them.

Independence is fun, especially when there's a beloved waiting in the wings, and freedom makes you a more interesting person. Having separate lives brings fresh air into a relationship.

It's important in a relationship to have moments when you do your own thing.

Do we need distance to get close?

I want a man in my life, not in my house.

I talk to my friends and, you know, they all seem to get relationships that aren't right. You kind of want someone who is not at your beck and call but loves the idea of being in a relationship and what that entails.

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.

I love my mother dearly, but it wouldn't be suitable for me to live with her all the time.

If I love you, what business is it of yours?

At some level I've got to have a private life.

The wonderful thing about my husband is that we are very good at being independent.