Mark Goulston Quotes

Success and failure are emotional and physiological experiences. We need to deal with them in a way that is present and calm.

If I could give my teenaged self any advice, it would be 'Calm down!'

I let my personal feelings take care of themselves. I find that works better.

We must become acquainted with our emotional household: we must see our feelings as they actually are, not as we assume they are. This breaks their hypnotic and damaging hold on us.

The constant monitoring of our emotional landscape and personal interactions is a bizarre concept. But it is one that could help many people.

When we direct our thoughts properly, we can control our emotions.

Stress is a byproduct of subconscious beliefs you have about the world. You can't choose not to believe something. You believe it because you think it's true. To eliminate stress, you must learn to challenge these beliefs so that you see them differently.

Emotions are products of our mind, and we can actually train ourselves to choose whether we banish or embrace them.

We need to know how we are feeling. Mindfully acknowledging our feelings serves as an 'emotional thermostat' that recalibrates our decision making. It's not that we can't be anxious, it's that we need to acknowledge to ourselves that we are.

It's all about balance and, I think, being in the moment.

My recipe for dealing with anger and frustration: set the kitchen timer for twenty minutes, cry, rant, and rave, and at the sound of the bell, simmer down and go about business as usual.

It is a challenge at times, but trying to stay centered and balanced helps me keep things in perspective.

I think I'm still a little too intense for my own good sometimes.

The only way I've been able to keep my sanity is to pull back when I feel like it's time to pull back.

I try not to do too much self-analysis apart from when I'm actually paying $170 an hour for it. I try to keep it in the room.

There's times where I get emotionally hijacked, then I'll try and force something and do something.

Sometimes, when you're doing too much, things get overwhelming. So I just have to calm myself down and think, 'What would my mama want me to do?'

How do I control my emotions? How do I stop getting angry so often, or how do I stop being sad? And I think there's a really important distinction to understand is that you can't completely control your emotions. What you control is your reaction to your own emotions. And a lot of people don't ever make that separation for what goes on with them.

I'm constantly trying to be strong, to be calm when things get tough. The biggest part of that is keeping things in perspective, not being afraid of playing long matches, not putting too much pressure on yourself. It can't be all or nothing, right here, right now.

I believe, as human beings, we sometimes indulge in self pity more than it's necessary. Over my life's journey, I have realised that overthinking about your problems and indulging in self-pity is not the answer to get through tough times.

I just focus on taking a deep breath, staying calm, and not trying to make the situation bigger than it is.

When we meditate every morning we are putting on armor for the day's battle against our own impatience, inadequacy, resentment, and hostility.

When there is pain, the animal instinct is 'fight or flight' (i.e., to either strike back or run away) - reflect instead. When you can calm yourself down, thinking about the dilemma that is causing you pain will bring you to a higher level and enlighten you, leading to progress.

To believe that your husband, wife, parents, kids, boss, job, bank account, or body is even partly responsible for your emotions, to think that there are bullets 'out there' that you have to contend with, that there are stressful life events to overcome, is to miss something vital.

Frustration is our announcement to ourselves that we need to move back into love in order to find our "center" once again.