Paulo Coelho Quotes

Often, little situations trigger enormous reactions. Be there, present for it. Your partner will find it easier to see it in you, and you will find it easier to see it in them.

I think women who don't understand boundaries are fascinating.

Women are always eagerly on the lookout for any emotion.

Keep this question in mind: 'What would I think of this if I exchanged places with the other person?' It paves the way to more successful action.

I can't control other people, what their beliefs are.

I've always thought I could use my brain and my heart to jockey everyone around to the good. But life is not jockeyable. When you try, you make people infinitely crazier than they already were, including or especially yourself.

As my mom has said, when one person is unhappy, it usually means two people are unhappy but that one has not come to terms with it yet.

We can use the romantic relationship as a microcosmic example. Until you really understand the other person and where they're coming from and you understand yourself and how you contribute to things, you can never make that relationship better. And I think sometimes people don't understand how much these things are related.

There is no formula to relationships. They have to be negotiated in loving ways, with room for both parties, what they want and what they need, what they can do and what their life is like.

If you are often deceived by those around you, you may be sure that you deserve to be deceived; and that instead of railing at the general falseness of mankind, you have first to pronounce judgment on your own jealous tyranny, or on your own weak credulity.

Learning is a result of listening, which in turn leads to even better listening and attentiveness to the other person. In other words, to learn from the child, we must have empathy, and empathy grows as we learn.

Every relationship you have, you're learning and growing and taking something from that.

I don't know how you can understand other people or yourself if you haven't read a lot of books. I just don't think you're equipped to deal with the demands and decisions of life, particularly in your dealings with other people.

I don't have problems with people, because if I do, I address it.

I was never very mature in my relationships with women. First sign of conflict, I was gone.

To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person.

I try as best I can to enter the realm of nuances of human behavior.

When I understand myself, I understand you, and out of that understanding comes love.

Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That's why they look alike.

As novices, we think we're entirely responsible for the way people treat us. I have long since learned that we are responsible only for the way we treat people.

Listen more than you talk.

I learned at an early age that using the third person will push some buttons.

Remember that no relationship is a total waste of time. You can always learn something about yourself.

I'm engaged: I'm interested in other people. I think that's just as important as knowing how to do the job.

Women on the whole are often not as shallow as men are. They can be, but they cut through things a little more easily than men do in terms of that superficial stuff.