J. Irwin Miller Quotes

If you are willing to listen and if you are willing to sit around the table, sometimes especially with the people who you think you disagree with the most, it is still really possible to get things done.

It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences.

I want people to talk to one another no matter what their difference of opinion might be.

I will listen to any argument put to me.

Some people are like wheelbarrows; useful only when pushed, and very easily upset. The time to stop talking is when the other person nods his head affirmatively but says nothing.

We cannot learn from one another until we stop shouting at one another

When men understand what each other mean, they see for the most part, that controversy is either superfluous or hopeless.

I don't mind have an uncomfortable conversation if those uncomfortable conversations can lead to a bigger dialogue and help us get to a better understanding of whatever it is we are discussing.

Let's choose to hear one another out.

If you lose an argument it doesn't mean you change your mind but you have to accept the decision.

The sweetest two words in any negotiation are actually, 'That's right.' Before you convince them to see what you're trying to accomplish, you have to say the things to them that will get them to say, 'That's right.'

When people express opinions that differ from yours, take it as a chance to grow. Seek to understand over being understood. Be curious, not defensive. The only way to disarm another human being is by listening.

When you're not being heard - I can't tell you what to do when you're not being heard. I do think there is a way to move in love and get things done, though.

The next time you find yourself in an argument, rather than defend your position, see if you can see the other point of view first.

Remember, it takes two to make an argument. The one who is wrong is the one who will be doing most of the talking.

I will listen to you, especially when we disagree.

Listen first. Give your opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This only raises barriers. Try to build bridges of understanding.

But you've got to understand what the other guy is about, even if at the end of the process you decide that there is no ground with this man or woman except to fight them.

After 45 years of marriage, when I have an argument with my wife, if we don't agree, we do what she wants. But, when we agree, we do what I want!

I must believe that in words we will find what in fury we cannot.

I can definitely be tough when pushed. In relationships, you have to take a stand for who you are and how you're willing to be treated.

A man never tells you anything until you contradict him.

The best way to persuade people is with your ears - by listening to them.

My own experience is use the tools that are out there. Use the digital world. But never lose sight of the need to reach out and talk to other people who don't share your view. Listen to them and see if you can find a way to compromise.

I decided to get to know my opponents and their arguments.