Alan Pardew Quotes

Those who cannot understand how to put their thoughts on ice should not enter into the heat of debate.

I'm not a screamer. I'm confrontational, but I don't think that translates into anger.

I'm plain incapable of getting angry with Angela Merkel and likewise.

While exceptional employees don't seek conflict, they don't run away from it either. They're able to maintain their composure while presenting their positions calmly and logically. They're able to withstand personal attacks in pursuit of the greater goal and never use that tactic themselves.

I ain't go on media and spazz. That's what crash dummies do. That ain't what I do.

Anger without power is folly.

Give the other person the ability to save face…. Don’t rub his nose in things.

Never get angry. Never make a threat. Reason with people.

A wise man knows when to go 'head and back off so you gotta pick and choose your fights. I know how to pick and choose.

I'm no table flipper. I am more calm and collected in my fights.

As the excited passions of hostile people are of themselves a powerful enemy, both the general and his government should use their best efforts to allay them.

I'm polite. I guess that's the dichotomy within me. I don't like to piss people off just for the sake of pissing them off. I pick my battles.

I have often urged my young friends, when faced with an adversary, to "play polo" with him; i.e., not to go at him bald-headed but to ride side by side with him and gradually edge him off your track. Never lose your temper with him. If you are in the right there is no need to, if you are in the wrong you can't afford to.

The number one goal in resolving a conflict is to make sure both sides maintain their self-esteem. You don't hit a man on the head when you've got your fingers between his teeth.

The key is to put your outrage in a place where you can get it when you need to, but not have it bubble up so much, especially when you're asked to explain new ideas or explain what you observed two people who share none of your experiences.

Tact is the ability to make a person see lightning without letting him feel the bolt.

I kept a straight face while my inner Neanderthal spluttered and then went on a mental rampage through a hypothetical produce section, knocking over shelves and spattering fruit everywhere in sheer frustration, screaming, 'JUST TELL ME WHOSE SKULL TO CRACK WITH MY CLUB, DAMMIT!

One of the marks of maturity is the ability to disagree without becoming disagreeable

In both marriage and war you must cut up the things people say like a cake and eat only what you can stomach.

Sometimes...it's better for a man just to walk away. But if you can't walk away? I guess that's when it's tough.

Do not do that again," he said stiffly. "Don't kiss me back then," I retorted. He stared at me for what seemed like forever. "I don't give 'Zen lessons' to hear myself talk. I don't give them because you're another student. I'm doing this to teach you control." "You're doing a great job," I said bitterly.

Take your job seriously, BUT don't take their complaints personally. If you take it personally you'll get upset and lose your edge. If you take it too personally, you'll lose your edge and your job. If you take it seriously -- it's you with them. If you take it personally, it's you against them. What steps can you take to ensure keeping your cool?

Look, I realize both of you could happily strangle each other across the table, but I don't think that's the most effective use of our time, and frankly, I don't think I have enough money to tip the waitress for that kind of clean-up. And look, here's lunch. Let's eat that instead of eachother.

I don't get nearly enough credit in life for the things I manage not to say.

Don’t be stupid, Katra. Never speak in anger and never try to force your will onto someone else. You’ll never find peace in that. (Acheron)