Deb Caletti Quotes

I was always holding onto people, and they were always leaving.

If you're afraid of everyone leaving you, what do you do?" Make them stay." And if you can't do that, or don't know how to?" Ellie shrugged. "I don't know." Yes, you do. In fact, you've done it. You leave first," Coop said, "so you don't have to watch them walk away.

Jealousy is the fear of losing the thing you love most. It's very normal. Suspicion is the thing that's abnormal.

The unwarranted devotion. Putting up with the fear of being with the wrong person because you can't deal with the fear of being alone. The hope tinged with doubt, and the doubt tinged with hope. Every time I see these feelings in someone else's face, it weighs me down.

If I lose it now, I will lose you, too. I know that. I hate it.

Several paranoid suspicions occurred to me, the worst of which was that my whole identity was merely a patched-together set of behaviors designed to keep my parents joined to each other - the repertoire of tricks of a small but intelligent dog.

I'm independent. If a guy is too clingy or needy, I actually get afraid of hurting him - and I can't deal with that.

I was right not to be afraid of any thief but myself, who will end by leaving me nothing.

When I was younger, many of my romantic escapades were just a means of simply avoiding being by myself. I was afraid of feeling lonely, afraid I wouldn't know what to say to myself.

Those who love to be feared fear to be loved, and they themselves are more afraid than anyone, for whereas other men fear only them, they fear everyone.

Vanity can apply to both insecurity and egotism. So I distance myself, because I feel everything.

I've had some great relationships that I have absolutely sabotaged because I'm afraid to get close to someone, and I know, eventually, I'll run off.

Jealousy is unavoidable - it's part of the price we pay for intimacy.

Sometimes you can be with someone that you love, but you know it's not healthy for you. You stay with them because you can't stand the thought of them being with someone else. It kills you.

If things are too perfect, people are always so afraid that it's going to change, so they ruin it themselves.

Being left makes you doubt your ability to keep people, even friends.

She wanted to lose herself in him. To tie his arms around her like a tourniquet. If she showed him how much she needed him, he'd run away.

Do you know what your problem is? You can't live with the idea that someone might leave.

I don't know if I want a steady relationship, but I'm terrified of losing you.

We have a tendency to always test people's love. 'I want to see how badly I have to behave before you'll leave me. Because I don't really think you want me anyhow.'

You can't love someone unless you are in an equal position with them. A lot of women have to cling to men out of fear or insecurity, and that's not love - basically that's why women hate men.

Some young ladies are so starved for male approval that what should be a normal attraction to men is accelerated into an obsessive need for male affirmation. Tragically, these dear ladies allow themselves to be devoured in the arms of men who have neither regard not respect for them as people.

Fondness for people can be terrifying, because it's intangible and it can disappear, or it can be taken away, or you can say the wrong thing. A million things, so it's so uncomfortable. So when you suddenly become aware of it because they don't call you or something for half an hour or whatever, you lose it.

I always had the fear of being separated and abandoned. The sewing is my attempt to keep things together and make things whole.

My whole life was about her, what if her whole life wasn’t all about me?