Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

George looked at her for a long moment. Finally he replied, "And why do you find it so hard to think someone might like you and want to do things for you?

Men don't want another man to look at their woman because they don't know how to handle it.

Being left makes you doubt your ability to keep people, even friends.

I hate it when people say, "Oh, women are just jealous." I'm not jealous, but I do beat myself up about what I haven't accomplished in my own life yet - and when you meet a woman who has accomplished what you expect to achieve, and she's also dating your ex, of course it's hard!

No one's busy thinking bad things about you. They're all too busy thinking bad things about themselves.

Like many people, I think I'm my own worst critic. And I think I take a lot out in an internally abusive way, looking at how I measure up, which usually was never enough. I never, never was as good as someone else.

It's the sort of subject that always interests me: jealousy and the language of suspicion and guilt. I think it interests people.

Low self esteem involves imagining the worst that other people can think about you.

Why do we feel jealousy? Therapists often regard the demon as a scar of childhood trauma or a symptom of a psychological problem. And it's true that people who feel inadequate, insecure, or overly dependent tend to be more jealous than others.

Sometimes I think my husband is so amazing that I don't know why he's with me. I don't know whether I'm good enough. But if I make him happy, then I'm everything I want to be.

I am suspicious of what people might want from me. Do they like me, or my money?

Never reveal your insecurities to a man, because nine times out of 10 they have no idea they even exist.

Jealousy is unavoidable - it's part of the price we pay for intimacy.

I've felt ugly and insecure.

If you're thinking like that - 'Does this person want me for me?' - then you're gonna have a hell of a hard time falling in love, 'cause you're constantly thinking about what they look like on paper.

I don't really know how accepted I am. Nothing ever matters to me apart from the people with negative opinions. That's literally it. That always drives me on to the next thing. It's funny, you just focus on them and then the next movie. That's the only thing you're thinking about when it comes out.

I really don't know what "I love you" means. I think it means "Don't leave me here alone.

I do trust you, is what I want to say. But it isn't true -- I didn't trust him to love me despite the terrible things I had done. I don't trust anyone to do that, but that isn't his problem; it's mine.

Yes, go on. Leave. You're always coming and going. The rest of us are stuck here. Do you think he'd still love you if he knew who you are? He doesn't really care—only when it suits him.

When you say, "I need more confidence," what you're really saying is, "I need those people over there to approve of me." That is the desire to control other people and what they think. The first person who figures out how to do this owns the world.

I don't like myself. I'm not vain at all. I hate looking at myself - I always think I look ugly. Honest.

If I were to search for the central core of difficulty in people as I have come to know them, it is that in the great majority of cases they despise themselves, regarding themselves as worthless and unlovable.

I guess my main worry is that people will start hating what I hate about myself. I worry that everyone will think I am really annoying and just want me to shut up. Which would make so much sense because I annoy myself... I guess I want people to know that if they are annoyed with me, I get it, it's totally cool. Please forgive me.

I think a woman feels ugly when she's got the wrong man at her side. I've felt ugly and insecure.

Some of the most beautiful people in the whole world wake up some days and they don't think that they're pretty.