Amanda de Cadenet Quotes

Some therapists have proclaimed: 'Co-dependency is anything, and everyone is co-dependent.'

There's a fascinating school of thought that some women are relationship addicts. You get really strung out on a guy who's not returning your enthusiasm and tell yourself you're going to fix him and make him better, and of course it's impossible.

There are almost as many definitions of co-dependency as there are experiences that represent it.

When he was on the streets, I was consumed with Nic. I was obsessed with him to the point that I could barely function.

I was an ego maniac with a self-esteem problem and that's what most addicts are like.

My family's messed up, for real.

Rose, I'm an addict with no work ethic who is likely going to go insane. I'm not like you. I'm not a super-hero." "Not yet," I said.

in all codependent relationships, the rescuer needs the victim as much as the victim needs the rescuer.

By my mid-20s, I was a total mess.

I am clearly vulnerable to these more passionate and volatile unstable relationships. I am trying to not be so vulnerable.

I admire people who destroy themselves.

I look at people in certain circumstances, and I fall into caretaker mode real quick, real easy. I like to shoulder people up and carry them along, and then I end up creating some kind of dependency. I enable. It's really, really hard for me.

I need to protect myself from my own addictive impulse.

You're always fighting the demons.

It's a recurring thing: It's that I fall really deeply for bad relationships. It's just always been this way and not changing.

My mother was a terrible narcissist and I could well have turned out like her.

I think I'm now screwed for life because my first relationship was the most bizarre relationship ever, and I'm not normal any more. I've kind of been spoiled, and I guess I am kind of screwed up now.

I'm a fixer, unfortunately. I'm like, 'Oh, I can fix you.' But it's not just guys I'm dating anymore. It's this entire legion of young girls who tell me they need me to maintain any sort of sanity or peace.

At home, my personal life was regularly falling apart, and from childhood on, I had a lot of chaos. I was addicted to chaos; I was addicted to self-harm, and I had to seek help at the hospital.

Most people have had that feeling of like, being obsessed with someone, and losing self control a bit, and that hopefully humanises addiction a bit.

I was really scared to make this album and to make this song. Because I didn't want to talk about it. For me, it's even deeper than just '1-800.' 'Everybody' as a whole... I was terrified.

I think when people are abusing drugs it is probably a symptom of a bigger problem that they need to address.

A sensitive person is seldom happy with the world the way it is. And since you cannot change it, you think, 'Might as well numb the anguish.' If you're using something to escape reality, then it's something you need to address.

I feel like I've had bad nights or destructive nights or nights where I don't remember anything or nights where I was seriously injured or seriously in danger. And I remained nihilistic and unconcerned because it felt like there was no alternative.

I sit here drunk now. I am a series of small victories and large defeats and I am as amazed as any other that I have gotten from there to here without committing murder or being murdered; without having ended up in the madhouse. as I drink alone again tonight my soul despite all the past agony thanks all the gods who were not there for me then.