Douglas Coupland Quotes

If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend.

It's not like you can wake up and realize, 'Oh, I want intimacy,' and then it happens that day.

If you want to have a relationship, at some point you have to let yourself get caught.

I have a lot of people in my life, and I think there's something key: the thing that leads to intimacy and relationship and connection is tenderness.

Honesty is the only way with anyone, when you'll be so close as to be living inside each other's skins.

They say there is a doorway from heart to heart, but what is the use of a door when there are no walls?

But I think if it's the right person, you wouldn't have to work so hard at intimacy. I think—hope—it would just happen naturally. Otherwise, opening up to the wrong person..." I made a face. "Like putting ammo in their hands.

I think connection makes me vulnerable. Commitment makes me vulnerable, really.

Look your significant other in the eyes, make that connection.

Love is an attempt at penetrating another being, but it can only succeed if the surrender is mutual.

No, no I'm not, no, but I just think... when people are naked it tells you a lot about their relationships.

Fear is the great enemy of intimacy. Fear makes us run away from each other or cling to each other but does not create true intimacy.

The married are those who have taken the terrible risk of intimacy and, having taken it, know life without intimacy to be impossible.

In a relationship when things are really great you don't need to say anything and just enjoy the other person. Sometimes with a couple, it gets dark and you don't know what to say and that silence can last all day. Other times you don't want to stop talking because you don't want to lose one another.

I love being honest and intimate with people. I love building community. I love emailing with readers.

There's not as many people as one would think you can be completely open with.

A thing that you see in my pictures is that I was not afraid to fall in love with these people.

I think for love to work you have to be with someone who you want to talk to before going to bed at night.

I think invariably when you are dealing with relationships, the films really center on that, and the plot is really born out of that. That's the most core part of a relationship: intimacy, I think, whether it's expressed or not.

In a relationship you have to open yourself up.

Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It's the magic sauce.

That's one of the great lies of intimacy, to pretend you know everything - you cannot. No matter how close you've been, over however many years, there remain secrets. I think we all know that - that you don't tell everybody everything.

It's a very intimate thing to invite someone into your home; there's a lot of trust involved.

If you want to have a relationship, at some point you have to let yourself get caught. That's what I did. I got caught.

Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky.