Alice Duer Miller Quotes

There was never any question about it: we [with Yoko Ono] had to have a 50-50 relationship or there was no relationship, I was quick to learn.

I'm just trying to be truthful and collaborate with people who have interesting things to say.

I am hunting for people who would be a good colleague or a teammate, not someone who works for me.

Communication is so key.

My husband had a very strong identity and was successful in his life. Thank God for that. There's no way I can control him. I wouldn't stay married to him if I felt I could. I can readily take my business personality into the home. But he forces me to be a partner rather than the boss.

The great marriages are partnerships. It can't be a great marriage without being a partnership.

The only way marriage can work is if a man respects the woman and she is a thinking woman and he wants to work on the marriage.

In other relationships, it may be permissible to overpower people, but not between people who are living together. That relationship is supposed to be between equals.

I said to George, 'Why don't you manage me?' He looked at me, a little bit surprised. Then he replied, 'Sure, Sass, I'll manage you, but it would be even better if we managed each other.' The next morning, we got our marriage license at the court.

Who asks who out on the date? Who's supposed to pay for dinner? Who chooses where you go? Both partners should be involved in these discussions. If we want to be treated as equals, don't put yourself in a position where you set yourself up to not be equal.

Collaborating with someone on music is the same way you'd go about hanging out. You have to listen more than you talk.

I don't feel like I'm standing in a position where I have some right above other people to say what I think. We should all be talking to each other about what we think is important - whether we're in politics, or whether we're checking out at a grocery store. We shouldn't put walls up between each other.

Love naturally reverses the idea of obedience, and causes the struggle between any two who truly love each other to be, not who shall command, but who shall yield.

Amelie said, “I won’t be your servant in Morganville. Nor should you be mine. Equals.” She offered her hand to him, and he looked down at it, clearly taken aback. But he took it. “Now defend what is ours, my partner.” He grinned … grinned! … and whirled to meet Myrnin in midleap as Myrnin attacked.

Be collaborative. I've had some of my best experiences with directors who were able to sit down and have a conversation and ask me what I thought.

I think the lesson that I learnt very early on was to listen to people you work with, because you're all in it together.

Talk to people, not above them.

I hate the word assistant. No one works for me. I work with everyone because I couldn't do anything without the people that I work with.

Equal partnerships are not made in heaven-they are made on earth, one choice at a time, one conversation at a time, one threshold crossing at a time.

The stereotype of a leader is one who talks and peps people up and things like that, but in actuality you have to listen to your teammates.

The audience is not your boss. They are your collaborators and when you collaborate with someone you don't have to listen to everything they think or say.

Leadership is not something you do to people. It's something you do with people.

Make sure that team members know they are working with you, not for you.

I also try to surround myself with people I love - make a family out of the company. So I tend to use the same people over and over. There's a sort of Mel Brooks Repertory Company.

There is no communication in this world except between equals.