resilience in children Quotes

...children have the resilience to outlive their sufferings, if given a chance.

You may have heard about living today, tomorrow, or "tonow." Tonow, children tell us, is a gift, which is why we call it "the present." Children understand that tonow is the place to live. The present is really the only moment we have. Sure, bad things can happen in the tonow. But when bad things happen to children, they show us the way again, because they know how to be in touch with their feelings and needs.

It's impossible to protect your kids against disappointment in life.

Adult helplessness destroys children. Or it forces them to become tiny adults of their own.

A lot can happen [because of the dysfunctional family]. People don't look at that. They think, "Oh, my kids are going to be fine. My kids are resilient." But at a certain point, the damage starts. They start to feel pain - and when they feel bad, they start to take painkillers. We want to kill the pain.

Children's talent to endure stems from their ignorance of alternatives.

I've heard it said that children born to stressful times never shake the air of woe . . . .

I've since come to understand the reason school lasts thirteen years. It takes that long to sufficiently break a child's will. It is not easy to disconnect children's wills, to disconnect them from their own experiences of the world in preparation for the lives of painful employment they will have to endure.

Children don't heal as well.. they change.. they mutate with disaster and make accomodations.