Personal Limits Quotes

When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole where you used to plug up their aloneness, their disorganization, or their financial irresponsibility. Whatever it is, they will feel a loss. If you love them, this will be difficult for you to watch. But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them. If you have been enabling them to be irresponsible, your limit setting may nudge them toward responsibility.

Most people can learn a lot more than they think they can. They sell themselves short without trying.

Everybody's got a different circle of competence. The important thing is not how big the circle is. The important thing is staying inside the circle.

I am not steeped in all that angst. I'm never going to be Sid Vicious.

You best teach others about healthy boundaries by enforcing yours.

I'm not in the business of warning people.

I’d like you to know that almost all of the directors I have met over the years have been decent, likable and intelligent. Nevertheless, many of these good souls are people whom I would never have chosen to handle money or business matters. It simply was not their game. They, in turn, would never have asked me for help in removing a tooth, decorating their home or improving their golf swing. … We are all duds at one thing or another. For most of us, the list is long. The important point to recognize is that if you are Bobby Fischer, you must play only chess for money.

From my training I can get a good idea of what I'm capable of.

Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.

Every person must choose how much truth he can stand.

I know what my comfort zones are. But without a back-up, I will never step out of my comfort zone. I don't go bungee jumping; I won't jump from the third floor without a safety net. I don't do such things. That's not my personality type.

Had I not been an actor, I would have been counting cash at my father's restaurant or supervising activities in the kitchen. I did it for a year when I was in college. I put on 10 kgs and then it hit me that I couldn't do that anymore.

Why is it he feels some line has been crossed, some boundary transgressed? How much is too much, how far is too far?

I can improve it a little bit. But it's my head, it's the way I am. So at the end of the day, I will be who I am and I will win how much I can win.

Because my life is so hard, I feel that I am not going to extend my term artificially. Never.

Don't be a rock star. I've seen people around me have their lives destroyed by drugs. It just depends on what kind of person you are. Like, some people have a "go" button and a "stop" button, and some people just have the "go" button, meaning that they take drugs and just take more, and more, and more. It could be 6 in the morning and they'll say, "Okay, I have to get more now." I'm not that kind of person.

The only thing I wouldn't do is sell my arse.

All I can do is be my best - there will always be people who will never like me.

I have nothing left to prove. I've already done enough to my neck.

At all points, you have to look at what you're doing and say, 'Do I want to do this?' 'Am I up to it?' 'Am I strong enough?'

Taking on responsibilities that properly belong to someone else means behaving irresponsibly toward yourself. You need to know where you end and someone else begins. You need to understand boundaries. You need to know what is and is not up to you, what is and is not in your control, what is and is not your responsibility.

I can't be everything to everyone. Send me your specs.

I teach people how to treat me by what I will allow.

Nothing can motivate me any more than I'm already motivated. It just can't happen. Me being motivated was never a factor. Never.

Basically, when I did 'Infinity' in 1997, I had thoughts in my head that left me with a lot of questions. I've gone to certain personal limits with 'Infinity' that, at the end of it, I think, scared me. And I've made a lot of really kinda bad mistakes as a result of that.