Jami Attenberg Quotes

Dr. Phil was very helpful and caring. I believe he helped all of us there and watching how to better relate, understand, and communicate with our families and loved ones. Dr. Phil recommended reading my new book.

I've had to relearn how I work with people so that if and when I do avoid different things I don't send any messages in doing so.

I'm a typical middle child. I'm the mediator. The one that makes everything OK, puts their own needs aside to make sure everybody's happy. It's hard to change your nature, even with years and years of therapy.

If you don't like your sister or don't get along with your father, let's find out if you like yourself. Let's not sugarcoat anything about it.

I have three sons, a husband, parents, and I'll fight and get angry, but what is very important that I have found as I've matured, is that I have to move on.

My family had all kinds of complications in relationships. I would like to meet the person who did not. Since when is being absolutely perfect what being a human is? What do we gain from that?

When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.

If you can fight directly with your mother, you can save a fortune in psychiatrist's bills.

Parenting makes us better in so many regards.

Everyone aims to get close to me and I've got to learn how to be able to cope, and that's what we work on all the time.

Nobody wants a bad relationship with their parents, but at the same time we are all dealt a hand in this life and it's all about what you do with that.

All of the sadness and drama you have lived in your life was rooted in the making of assumptions and taking things personally. The whole world of control between humans is based on that.

Those who behave in ways that displease you are sending out their disharmony toward you because that is what they have to give away. Hating them is akin to hating moss for growing on a tree.

I don't know how you can understand other people or yourself if you haven't read a lot of books. I just don't think you're equipped to deal with the demands and decisions of life, particularly in your dealings with other people.

I'm not a terrible person, I know that, but sometimes in a relationship, I can be crappy.

As with real reading, the ability to comprehend subtlety and complexity comes only with time and a lot of experience. If you don't adequately acquire those skills, moving out into the real world of real people can actually become quite scary.

One of the other things I think that I've been able to do in my life, is to listen well.

I have only got down on to paper, really, three types of people: the person I think I am, the people who irritate me, and the people I'd like to be.

You cannot tailor-make the situations in life but you can tailor-make the attitudes to fit those situations.

Very often when you see families it's all perfect and neat, and parenting isn't like that. You do have constant negotiations. Things are ever developing and ever changing, and you constantly have to evaluate how you deal with your kids.

I hate people.

Effective listening is something that can absolutely be learned and mastered. Even if you find attentive listening difficult and, in certain situations, boring or unpleasant, that doesn't mean you can't do it. You just have to know what to work on.

I was the middle of five children, and we were five very opinionated siblings. That probably pushed me to learn to speak up for myself.

I'm no where as tough as my father. I really think that I am more open to change than he was.

I taught myself to tune in to another person's wavelength, figure out what they were looking for, and try to project that thing back at them.