Alain de Botton Quotes

All marriages are happy. It's the living together afterward that causes all the trouble.

Husbands never become good; they merely become proficient.

But marriage goes in waves. You've got to be patient. People bail and give up on their marriages way too early. They just don't put the work and the effort into it. You've got to suck up your ego a lot of times, because that can be a big downfall.

The difficulty with marriage is that we fall in love with a personality, but must live with a character.

Marriage is an attempt to solve problems together which you didn't even have when you were on your own.

If you have a difficult marriage, it's the hard times that make it better. If you have a relationship, it's the hard times that actually make it better, and that goes for life as well.

Marriage is a series of desperate arguments people feel passionately about.

There comes a crossroads in every marriage where you grow together or grow apart. I outgrew Len. He wanted me to be in that leather jumpsuit for the rest of my life and do nothing else. He constrained me. It got to a point where the marriage died or I did.

I have a very intense marriage.

Marriage is wild. I thought it was this perfect land of happiness and joy. Wrong! After you say you do, you don't for a long time.

When people get married young, you don't really understand the true definition of marriage.

I think like any marriage, especially when you've had divorced parents like myself; you want to try even harder to make it work.

I wouldn't change being married. It was good for me, and I was happy for a period of time, and I learned a lot about myself.

When you're in a relationship you want it to work. My parents did, I did. But we are not taught how to make it work.

The concept of two people living together for 25 years without a serious dispute suggests a lack of spirit only to be admired in sheep.

Friendships and marriage are far more potent than financial conflicts.

To see two couples that are battling to make it work just shows that love is in a marriage, but there are also trials and things that you have to make it through and showing women and men how to keep it spicy.

I was in a marriage, and we didn't make it. So my hope is, through my music, I can help heal some relationships that may be headed in that direction.

Agreement is never reached in love. The life of a wife and husband who love each other is never at rest. Whether the marriage is true or false, the marriage portion is the same: elemental discord.

I always feel stupid giving advice since I've been married, what, a year? I can say this: Be in it for the long haul and just know there are going to be rough patches. No two people are the same, there are going to be areas where you just don't click.

The conception of two people living together for twenty-five years without having a cross word suggests a lack of spirit only to be admired in sheep.

Many people spend more time in planning the wedding than they do in planning the marriage.

I believe it's a real tedious hostage negotiation to have a marriage be what it is.

Marriage is one long conversation, chequered by disputes.

I think that with marriages, people have to understand that you have to look at your marriage and understand what is needed in your marriage - not what people think your marriage should be or what people want your marriage to be.