Kelley Armstrong Quotes

Using words to make other people less big made me feel bigger, though the psychological dimension to that... well, I don't want to explore it.

You don't have to listen to those mean girls. They're just there to make you upset and make you feel bad about yourself. And you know, inside, they feel bad about themselves too. But they don't wanna admit it to anybody.

Sometimes you feel bad about yourself when there's no reason to.

A lot of the advertisement is done by saying: first of all, have a complex about who you are.

Our vanity is hardest to wound precisely when our pride has just been wounded.

I'd been around women who put me down, made me feel bad, or said things to fuel my insecurity.

I don't have an inferiority complex.

And when someone apologizes to you enough times for things they'll never stop doing, I think it's FEARLESS to stop believing them. It's FEARLESS to say "you're NOT sorry" and walk away.

The difference between guilt and shame is very clear--in theory. We feel guilty for what we do. We feel shame for what we are. A person feels guilt because he did something wrong. A person feels shame because he is something wrong. We may feel guilty because we lied to our mother. We may feel shame because we are not the person our mother wanted us to be.

Humiliation is a vast country of imprecise boundaries. If you think you're there, you are. The neurotic rule: when in doubt, go ahead and feel humiliated.

It's one of the worst nightmare situations we could create for a young character, having the people who are supposed to believe in you keep telling you you're nothing.

Just that sometimes we let other people treat us wrongly because we want to be loved and accepted so badly that we'd do anything for it. It hurts when you know that no matter how much you try, how much you want it, they can't love or accept you as you are. Then you hate all that time you wasted trying to please them and wonder what about you is so awful that they couldn't at least pretend to love you." - Bride

I?d rather be rejected than used because they both amount to the same thing in the end, but being used takes a lot longer.

If I am not pleased with myself, but should wish to be other than I am, why should I think highly of the influences which have made me what I am?

Making ourselves feel ugly is not fun." "We are ugly.

I will no longer allow anyone to manipulate my mind and control my life in the name of love.

Beautiful girls. They only want to do you dirt. They'll have you suicidal, suicidal when they say it's over.

Even the wealthiest professional woman can be "brought down" by being in a relationship where she longs to be loved and is consistently lied to. To the degree that she trusts her male companion, lying and other forms of betrayal will most likely shatter her self-confidence and self-esteem.

What happens when someone throws you against a wall or tells you you're a jackass or puts you down or calls you bad names? It goes into your body. We hold it in our body. If we don't have a way to let that go and release that, it becomes sickness eventually.

No matter what I do with my life, or how successful I am, I will always be a socially awkward penguin inside.

But there are people who'll try to hurt you through the good they see in you--knowing that it's the good, needing it and punishing you for it. Don't let it break you when you discover that.

You can't hate/love others without loving/hating yourself first.

It's rather difficult to think of anybody being really interested in me. But you know, man, I am totally together.

I do not consider myself a teddybear. Just to be clear, I don't feel sorry for myself.

It’s not about what you said. It’s not about what you did. It’s not about what you love. It’s about them feeling bad about themselves.