Libba Bray Quotes

Intimacy doesn't have all that much to do with backseats of cars. Real intimacy is brushing your teeth together.

I think invariably when you are dealing with relationships, the films really center on that, and the plot is really born out of that. That's the most core part of a relationship: intimacy, I think, whether it's expressed or not.

I'm more interested in interpersonal relationships - between lovers families, siblings. That's why I write about how we treat each other.

Conflict is easy because we've all had conflict, but to really bond with someone and to have a genuine connection, it needs to come from a place by knowing them.

Can we ever really know anyone well? Let's just say we often found ourselves in each other's company and neither of us minded.

This may be a bit of a broad statement, but I don't think there's anyone that I've met that I haven't created a bit of a deep relationship with. It's a really lovely thing to create a relation with people that might not anticipate that closeness. And that's kind of the light of my life, getting to be close to people.

I think that sharing experiences with a person is very valuable, because it allows you to have a bond to become closer.

In the dark you can feel really close to a person. You can say whatever you want.

Something about telling that story made my gut grow back together." What?" Oh, nothing. Just thinking out loud." That's who you really like. The people you can think out loud in front of." The people who've been in your secret hiding places." The people you bite your thumb in front of." Hi." Hi." ..." ..." Wow. My first Lindsey." My second Colin." That was fun. Let's try it again." Sold." ..." ..." ...".

Intimacy requires courage because risk is inescapable.

Always before, I just said no, left it solidly there. I waver now. I want to share everything with him. Want to know what he knows, feel what he feels, share the same space he's in.

We want to be in open, loving communion with each other and our greatest fear is intimacy. That it won't work and we'll be rejected.

I don't think I would have minded you being the keeper of my secrets.

We trust our secrets to our friends, but they escape from us in love.

It touched me to be trusted with something terrible.

How easy it must be when you had no secrets from the person you lived with." - Eclipse, page 208

I not only have my secrets, I am my secrets. And you are yours. Our secrets are human secrets, and our trusting each other enough to share them with each other has much to do with the secret of what it means to be human.

In a relationship when things are really great you don't need to say anything and just enjoy the other person. Sometimes with a couple, it gets dark and you don't know what to say and that silence can last all day. Other times you don't want to stop talking because you don't want to lose one another.

There's not as many people as one would think you can be completely open with.

Friendship is inexplicable, it should not be explained if one doesn't want to kill it.

Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It's the magic sauce.

That's one of the great lies of intimacy, to pretend you know everything - you cannot. No matter how close you've been, over however many years, there remain secrets. I think we all know that - that you don't tell everybody everything.

Some of the writers I admire who seem very, very funny and very emotional to me can develop a closeness with the reader without giving too much of themselves away. Lorrie Moore comes to mind, as does David Sedaris. When they write, the reader thinks that they're being trusted as a friend.

You forge different bonds with friends than with family, tell different secrets.