Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

Don't be naive and allow a man to take advantage of you.

Goodness is something people take advantage of, and if you want to remain a good person for long, you should make sure that too many people don't take advantage of you because then you turn bitter.

It is good to be helpful and kindly, but don't give yourself to be melted into candle grease for the benefit of the tallow trade.

You can't beg from people what they're not willing to give you.

You must be fit to give before you can be fit to receive.

If you allow men to use you for your own purposes, they will use you for theirs.

I can let people take advantage of me at times.

You need to learn to say no and need to recognise when you're being exploited.

Today I will practice healthy giving, understanding that caretaking and compulsive giving don't work. I choose what I want to give, to whom, when, and how much. It takes time to learn how to give in healthy ways. It takes time to learn to receive. Balance will come.

Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.

Sometimes the ladies involved give too much of themselves, sometimes not enough.

When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated.

There comes a point in time when you must know that everything you have already given or done is enough. This is not something anyone else can tell you. You must know. Giving without receiving doesn't prove anything except that you know how to be taken advantage of.

People will use you as long as you let them.

I don't want people mistreating me. I found out when you're vulnerable and your heart's open, then people step on you. You're really stupid for letting that happen. And the only way to counteract that is to be like Wolfman Jack. Because if you do nice, kind things for people, then how are they going to mess you over?

I didn't write my book, 'I Don't Care About Your Band,' in order to give women a brand-new set of dating rules they need to feel terrible about not abiding. I wrote my book to make the women who read it feel good about themselves, and a little more entitled to be treated well by the guys they go out with.

Everybody's out to get something from somebody. 'Gold diggers' doesn't just mean money, it can mean time, it can mean feelings. It can mean anything when you're taking and not giving. When people don't know how to reciprocate.

It's joyful to give. But for people who want to take advantage of you, you're kind of an easy mark.

Photographers and people do try to take advantage of you. You just have to stand your ground and prove you're not an easy target.

When someone gets sick, it is easy to get walked all over, walk all over people, and be so beat down you agree to things you would never normally agree to.

Yeah, I'm a giver. I've learned to be selective of the people in my world, because if I love someone, I will give them my blood, whatever they need. In doing so, one can end up with little left for themselves.

Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.

It may be very generous in one person to offer what it would be ungenerous in another to accept.

I am nice to everybody. But people really take advantage of it.

There are times we are givers, but others time we have to let others give to us.