Haim Ginott Quotes

Those who are beaten become beaters.

How many times have I told you not to hit people in the face. You kick them in the body where it doesn't show.

Children are like TV sets. When they start acting weird, whack them across the head with a big rubber basketball shoe.

If you strike a child, take care that you strike it in anger, even at the risk of maiming it for life. A blow in cold blood neither can nor should be forgiven.

Anyone who has brought up children knows that consistency has absolutely nothing to do with discipline.

Smack your child every day. If you don't know why - he does.

Tired mothers find that spanking takes less time than reasoning and penetrates sooner to the seat of the memory.

Any father whose son raises his hand against him is guilty of having produced a son who raised his hand against him.

If family violence teaches children that might makes right at home, how will we hope to cure the futile impulse to solve worldly conflicts with force?

Experts say you should never hit your children in anger. When is a good time? When you're feeling festive?

My father taught me how to fight when I was 5.

She put her hands around the neck of our production manager, and you know, started to choke him.

Nobody can tell me from some ivory tower that you take a kid, kick him in the rear end, and it doesn’t do him any good.

Those children who have been most chastised seldom make the best men.

Beating children has been a depressingly familiar habit in Black families since our arrival in the new world.

Black parents beat their children to keep them from misbehaving in the eyes of whites who had the power to send Black youth to their deaths [in slavery days] for the slightest offense. Today, many Black parents fear that a loose tongue or flash of temper can get their child killed by a trigger happy cop. They would rather beat their offspring than bury them.

I don't like hitting people in the face.

Yes,' Spade growled. 'And when you're slapped you'll take it and like it.' He released Cairo's wrist and with a thick open hand struck the side of his face three times savagely.

Parents teach children discipline for two different, indeed diametrically opposed, reasons: to render the child submissive to them and to make him independent of them. Only a self-disciplined person can be obedient; and only such a person can be autonomous.

In the short term, corporal punishment may produce obedience. But it is a fact documented by research that in the long term the results are inability to learn, violence and rage, bullying, cruelty, inability to feel another's pain, especially that of one's own children, even drug addiction and suicide, unless there are enlightened or at least helping witnesses on hand to prevent that development.

Any form of corporal punishment or 'spanking' is a violent attack upon another human being's integrity. The effect remains with the victim forever and becomes an unforgiving part of his or hier personality--a massive frustration resulting in a hostility which will seek expression in later life in violent acts towards others. The sooner we understand that love and gentleness are the only kinds of called-far behavior towards children, the better. The child, especially, learns to become the kind of human being that he or she has experienced. This should be fully understood by all caregivers.

Re raising kids: Love, without discipline, isn't.

I don't think anybody should ever touch anybody in anger, ever.

Fathers should start teaching the boys how to punch.

I just couldn't imagine hitting a child. But in 'The Slap' it's an extreme situation. You have to ask yourself - would you step in if a child was out of control?