Todd Haynes Quotes

I'm not a lesbian. I just think that all humans are born with the ability to be attracted to both sexes.

Lou Reed was an ideal figure to me. He was bisexual, like me, and seemed to inhabit an ambiguous middle place on the masculine-feminine spectrum.

I've been thinking a lot about my relationship to my own queerness, and I think the word pansexual speaks to me more than bi does.

I was in a band with a boy who was quite androgynous and a bit bisexual, and we used to play up to that a little bit to be provocative in a theatrical way, but I guess you either are or aren't.

The time has come, I think, when we must recognize bisexuality as a normal form of human behavior.

A man who reads effeminate may well be consistently heterosexual, and another one might be gay. We can't read sexuality off of gender.

These names: gay, queer, homosexual are limiting. I would love to finish with them. We're going to have to decide which terms to use and where we use them. For me to use the word 'queer' is a liberation; it was a word that frightened me, but no longer.

Virginia Woolf said that writers must be androgynous. I'll go a step further. You must be bisexual.

For many years I thought I was bisexual. And then I would ask myself, 'What is bisexual? Does that even exist?'

I grew up in a family where many of our close friends were gay couples. As well as that, every man goes through a period of thinking they're attracted to another guy.

A lot of what used to be known as gay culture - broadly speaking, homoeroticism and being camp - has been brought into mainstream culture. I think we should be moving to an era where it's just sex.

Straight people say, 'You know you're just gay,' and gay people say, 'You know you're just gay.' There is such a thing as bisexual!

There is a large group that's not represented on television - the group that falls somewhere in the middle of straight and gay. That group is looked down on, because people say, 'You can't be in-between. You have to pick one or the other.'

Lots of my writing can be accurately called lesbian, but I myself am queer and date people of all genders.

It is fatal to be a man or woman pure and simple: one must be a woman manly, or a man womanly.

She looks like she could be a dyke if she wanted to be.

People's sexuality is often defined by who we're partnered with at any given moment, which can be a frustrating limitation for me. I've had countless tiny 'coming out' moments in my life, often simply to explain to someone else that they have misjudged my sexuality based on who they saw me dating.

It used to be so important to choose what you were. Gay or straight. Male or female. I think the new generation is more fluid.

I have no hips, and I feel like my body's like a teenage boy's. But I can have the hair long, put on makeup, wear a dress, and do the exact opposite as well.

I always knew that I liked guys. I just thought it was a normal thing to like guys but then also appreciate girls' attention too.

There's straight people, and there's super gay people, and then there's everybody in between, and everybody is a little bit of something because sexuality is fluid.

I'm bisexual. And so, you know, I've dated men and women.

What's great about being gay is that you can celebrate all types of sexualities, because we understand that being queer means you might also be gender nonconforming or bi or whatever.

I was bisexual for a long time. I flitted between men and women quite a lot between the ages of 17 and 26.

Not everybody is either gay or straight.