Bob Colacello Quotes

I've had some great relationships that I have absolutely sabotaged because I'm afraid to get close to someone, and I know, eventually, I'll run off.

I would say our social relationships are relatively shallow. We are actually afraid to be intimate, with people - many people even with their wives and husbands.

She didn't know how to love, to give herself to someone, to out herself in someone else's keeping and take him into hers. She didn't trust anyone with her heart - or the darker places of her soul.

I have a well-documented history of trouble with intimacy.

My girlfriend has been the ice.

It's hard for anybody who's been with me not to feel starved for affection when I'm making love to my ideas. Maybe it's not meant for me to settle down and be married.

My friends tell me I have an intimacy problem. But they don't really know me.

I think you must be running away from something pretty enormous if you don't want to see a person more than once or twice. I think relationships don't get interesting for quite a while. When the initial heady rush fades, that's when it gets really exciting.

My problem is with intimacy. That's where I have my biggest problems.

I find it really hard to be close to anybody.

Your distance from your partner is the distance from your heart. The things that make relationships difficult are some of the most precious aspects to us.

Neither of us seemed able to be close to anyone. Not even each other. Closeness meant the one you loved the most would cause you the most damage. How did you unlearn that? It was woven deep between every fiber and vessel. You couldn't cut it out.

Fear destroys intimacy. It distances us from each other; or makes us cling to each other, which is the death of freedom.... Only love can create intimacy, and freedom too, for when all hearts are one, nothing else has to be one--neither clothes nor age; neither sex nor sexual preference; race nor mind-set.

Because letting someone in close meant they could hurt you. I knew all about that kind of fear. I lived with it.

Perhaps we had at last reached that stage of intimacy that destroys intimacy.

He was thirty-one now, not too old, but old enough to be lonely. He hadn't dated since he'd been back here, hadn't met anyone who remotely interested him. It was his own fault, he knew. There was something that kept a distance between him and any woman who started to get close, something he wasn't sure he could change even if he tried. And sometimes in the moments right before sleep came, he wondered if he was destined to be alone forever.

You've gotten so caught up in being alone that you're afraid of what might happen if you actually find someone else that can take you away from it.

The anxiety of falling in love could not find repose except in bed.

I just want you inside, baby, we don't need to talk about promises.

People are islands,' she said. 'They don't really touch. However close they are, they're really quite separate. Even if they've been married for fifty years.

I care," he said in a trembling voice. "I care so much that I do not know how to tell you without it seeming inconsequential compared to how I feel. Even if I am distant at times and seem as if I do not want to be with you, it is only because this scares me, too.

Affection can withstand very severe storms of vigor, but not a long polar frost of indifference.

Maybe I was being too picky. Maybe I didn't want to be close to anyone. Maybe I'd just be the type who couldn't feel love all the way or something. I couldn't tell what was wrong, but what was wrong was that it just wasn't right.

You're afraid to be close to women. Because it's not masculine to be close to women. The last time you were close to a woman, you were a child.

I think I’ve developed this pattern of running away when it comes time to fall in love and stay in a relationship.