Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

There's a secret to get through loss, pain and grief. If we're alone we can't see who we are. When we join the club, other people become the mirror. Through them, we see ourselves and gain an understanding of what we're going through. Then slowly, real slowly, we learn to accept who we see in the mirror. Then you become the mirror for them; by being honest about who you are, you'll help them learn to love and accept themselves.

Don't let your wounds make you become someone you're not.

Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.

Don't waste your pain; use it to help others.

You think you're being broken but you're really being broken open...and that's where the healing happens, in those broken places...if you'll allow it.

In deep self acceptance, grows a compassionate understanding.

It's an inside job to learn about forgiving, it's an inside job to hang on to the joy of living.

You meet people who are in pain in life and love and you forgive them for behaving the way they do.

but you can't spend your whole life hoping people will ask you the right questions. you must learn to love and answer the questions they already ask.

Healing is the process of accepting all, then choosing best.

I'm sure you think that I don't understand what you're going through, but I do. It's just that sometimes, our future is dictated by what we are, opposed to what we want.

Anything that is within you is a gift. To be able to take possession of that and say, "Whatever it is, I am bigger than it," is to learn to cherish even the hard and painful things.

I think that all of the scars and all of the layers that I've built over the years made me the person that I am today, and I'm pretty happy about that person.

Experience is not what happens to you. It is what you do with what happens to you. Don’t waste your pain; use it to help others.

This age thing is all up to you. It's like happiness is up to you. You just have to understand what it is before you get it.

When you finally understand who you are, ages 6 through 60 will understand who you are. Because when they see a person that's come through all that I've come through, still standing, it's amazing.

Learn not only to find what you like, learn to like what you find.

If you accept your limitations you go beyond them.

I came to love, I came into my own.

It took me several years to figure out who I am and a few more to accept what I discovered. Now, I'm in the enjoyment stage of that process and it's a happy place.

I learned patience, perseverance, and dedication. Now I really know myself, and I know my voice. It's a voice of pain and victory.

Through therapy and a lot of thinking and writing my memoirs, I've been able to use my life as a lesson.

I have a unique history. There's no way to ever separate what your life would have been like if you had taken a different path. You have to embrace what is yours, and if you don't like it, you have to decide to change it.

Difficulty creates the opportunity for self-reflection and compassion.

They say that people teach what they need to learn. By adopting the role of happiness teacher, if only for myself, I was trying to find the method to conquer my particular faults and limitations.