Barbara Hershey Quotes

It takes a long time to really be married. One marries many times at many levels within that marriage. If you have more marriages than you have divorces within the marriage, you’re lucky and you stick it out.

Success in marriage depends on being able, when you get over being in love, to really love....You never know anyone until you marry them.

An acquaintance had become a lover, might become a husband, but would retain all that she had noted in the acquaintance; and love must confirm an old relation rather than reveal a new one.

I’ve won his heart, but it’s like owning a house in which most of the doors are permanently locked. He wants to shield me from all unpleasantness. And it’s not really marriage—not like the marriage you have with Cam—until he’s willing to share the worst of himself as well as the best of himself.

Another reality about relationships is that they are never static. All of us experience changes in relationships but a few stop to analyse why a relationship gets better or worse.

Children change a lot in terms of personality. Camaraderie that you feel with somebody might not be there a year later.

I'm beginning to think that maybe it's not just how much you love someone. Maybe what matters is who you are when you're with them.

To experience relationships of substance and depth requires approaching and entering into relationships with consciousness and concern for the other.

Love is a quality, not a quantity.

Two people in a relationship either grow together or apart over time.

I think what creates a winner is a person who can connect with their partner - another human being.. connect with their soul

He is very fond of me, almost too fond. I could do with less caressing and more rationality. I should like to be less of a pet and more of a friend, if I might choose; but I won't complain of that: I am only afraid his affection loses in depth where it gains in ardour. I sometimes liken it to a fire of dry twigs and branches compared with one of solid coal, very bright and hot; but if it should burn itself out and leave nothing but ashes behind.

You are asking, 'Is the concept of soul mates more useful than marriage?' Concepts don't matter. What matters is your understanding. You can change the word marriage to the word soul mates, but you are the same. You will make the same hell out of soul mates as you have been making out of marriage - nothing has changed, only the word, the label. Don't believe in labels too much.

Regarding love what can you say? It's not the quantity of your sexual relations that counts. It's the quality. On the other hand if the quantity drops below once every eight months, I would definitely look into it.

It is better to be loved by one person who knows your soul than millions who don't even know your phone number.

Why do I always feel like you're trying to staple my umbilical cord to the corner of your desk?

Love has its roots in sex, but its foliage and flowers are in the pure light of spirit.

The happiest moments in any affair take place after the loved one has learned to accommodate the lover and before the maddening personality of either party has emerged like a jagged rock from the receding tides of lust and curiosity.

Prem Bubula, I have told you that a woman is to be loved, not understood.

At different stages in our lives, the signs of love may vary: dependence, attraction, contentment, worry, loyalty, grief, but at heart the source is always the same. Human beings have the rare capacity to connect with each other, against all odds

Sex is a conversation carried out by another means.

I view my wife as my lover, and we have a bond that goes beyond words like wife or girlfriend or mother.

Love seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of growths

You must not contrast too strongly the hours of courtship with the years of possession.

I know. I was there. I saw the great void in your soul, and you saw mine.