Christian Nestell Bovee Quotes

We often add to our pain and suffering by being overly sensitive, over-reacting to minor things, and sometimes taking things too personally.

I'm an emotional person. Sometimes I can't help it.

We are not a victim of our emotions or thoughts. We can understand our triggers and use them as tools to help us respond more objectively.

I react emotionally to everything!

Success and failure are emotional and physiological experiences. We need to deal with them in a way that is present and calm.

One reason why it has become harder to promote the beneficial side of emotions such as anger is that the moral vocabulary of good and bad has been replaced by the self-help lexicon of positive and negative thinking.

I am actually very in touch with all of my emotions, from joy to pain, and I am free with them.

I tend to process emotional stuff very, very slowly.

Part of growing up is learning to live with your emotions; today’s shortcut is to believe whatever your feelings are, they’re justified.

You learn to not take things personally and to just let it roll off of you.

You have to really understand that although certain memories or stories make you sad, you are not sad. Pull yourself out from that emotion and remember that.

I've got a lot better at dropping emotions if something goes wrong, or right.

The event is not what you should be working on. You should be working on your response or reaction to an event. You either react to it - that means you become victimized, and you say this thing is happening to you - or you respond to it and say the solution must come through you - that's where you stay focused, not on the rightness, wrongness, fairness of the event, but on the appropriateness of your response.

You will know how to stop suffering as soon as suffering ceases to be valuable. If you are in pain, you are being led.

It sounds clichéd, but I think the greatest lesson is to not take things personally.

Emotional intelligence grows through perception. Look around at your present situation and observe it through the level of feeling.

When there is pain, the animal instinct is 'fight or flight' (i.e., to either strike back or run away) - reflect instead. When you can calm yourself down, thinking about the dilemma that is causing you pain will bring you to a higher level and enlighten you, leading to progress.

At any given moment in your life, you have the choice between love and fear. And that's a choice you make. You make the choice of how you react to events.

The hard work, you discover over the years, is in learning to discern between correct and incorrect anxiety, between the anxiety that's trying to warn you about a real danger and the anxiety that's nothing more than a lying, sadistic, unrepentant bully in your head.

The pain is always bringing me a lesson. If I listen to the lesson when the pain is manageable, the pain won't get gargantuan and flatten me entirely, because I will have received the message at the center. I receive it as gently as I can, because the cruelest thing that I do to myself is try to push myself through an experience.

Feelings are facts. Look straight at 'em and deal with 'em. Work it through, as honestly as you can. If God is anything like a middle-class white chick from the suburbs, which I admit is a long shot, it's what you do about what you feel that matters.

One kind of happiness is to know exactly at what point to be miserable.