Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

While we cannot always choose what happens to us, we can choose our responses.

We can only control how we react and how we respond, and that complex but so simple idea helped me survive.

The problem is not what other people think, do or say; it is your reaction.

At any given moment in your life, you have the choice between love and fear. And that's a choice you make. You make the choice of how you react to events.

I can't control what happens to me, but I can control how I respond to it.

It's not what people do to us that hurts us. In the most fundamental sense, it is our chosen response to what they do to us that hurts us.

We are not a victim of our emotions or thoughts. We can understand our triggers and use them as tools to help us respond more objectively.

Learn to take responsibility for emotions, and to manage energies, always working within present resources.

It's not the situation... It's your reaction to the situation.

How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.

When things don't go our way, we get to choose how we will respond. We get to choose our perspective. Will you focus on what you didn't get, or what you did get?

I don't think I get that upset over things.

I've learned in my life that I have to focus on the things that I can control and what I can control is what comes out of my mouth and how I respond to people.

I believe, as human beings, we sometimes indulge in self pity more than it's necessary. Over my life's journey, I have realised that overthinking about your problems and indulging in self-pity is not the answer to get through tough times.

Anger is an unnecessary emotion. Loads of stuff in life can trigger it, but what matters is how you react. I choose not to react.

I've got a lot better at dropping emotions if something goes wrong, or right.

I try not to worry about things that I cannot control.

It's easy to fall into victim mode and feel like the world is against you. The truth is, people aren't against you: they're just for themselves. The only thing within your control is how you react and respond to the chaotic dance of life.

Character isn't inherited. One builds it daily by the way one thinks and acts, thought by thought, action by action. If one lets fear or hate or anger take possession of the mind, they become self-forged chains.

Why worry about things you can't control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you?

You cannot control what happens to you in life, but you can always control what you will feel and do about what happens to you.

Each of us needs to eliminate our anger, fear and greed. The roots of social conflicts and political tensions are in personal anger, fear and greed.

The pain is always bringing me a lesson. If I listen to the lesson when the pain is manageable, the pain won't get gargantuan and flatten me entirely, because I will have received the message at the center. I receive it as gently as I can, because the cruelest thing that I do to myself is try to push myself through an experience.

I don't let the hate go to my heart, and I don't let the praise go to my head.