Celeste Ng Quotes

Mistrust and misunderstanding are the major obstacles for people getting together .

One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other.

It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences.

I think in most relationships that have problems, there's fault on both sides. And in order for it to work, there has to be some common ground that's shared. And it's not just one person making amends.

If one could only teach the English how to talk, and the Irish how to listen, society here would be quite civilized.

Negotiation is empathy. It's almost trite to say that if you can't put yourself in the seat of the other person you're speaking with, you're not going to do well. It's not about being a bully, not about making offers people can't refuse.

I actually believe that the basis of a good relationship isn't liking the same things, it's hating the same things.

In a marriage, we have to accommodate each other's views.

I think compassion is important but love fizzles out eventually. But if there is compassion in a relationship, things can always be worked out.

In every relationship, the work is never just in the positive actions we do for each other, but in the follow up.

But you've got to understand what the other guy is about, even if at the end of the process you decide that there is no ground with this man or woman except to fight them.

You have to walk in the other guy's moccasins. You have to think what they think. If you want to bring somebody onto your side, you have to figure out what motivates them. What do they need?

We run into some pretty tough arguments sometimes, but the idea is that at the end of the day, my wife and I realize that we'll always be holding each other's hand.

Relationships are a constant negotiation and balance.

No matter what message you are about to deliver somewhere, whether it is holding out a hand of friendship, or making clear that you disapprove of something, is the fact that the person sitting across the table is a human being, so the goal is to always establish common ground.

Relationships are negotiated and if you deal with ultimatums and authority all the time, then you're not going to get anywhere.

The motto should not be: Forgive one another; rather understand one another.

I always feel stupid giving advice since I've been married, what, a year? I can say this: Be in it for the long haul and just know there are going to be rough patches. No two people are the same, there are going to be areas where you just don't click.

I want people to talk to one another no matter what their difference of opinion might be.

When you have a conflict, that means that there are truths that have to be addressed on each side of the conflict. And when you have a conflict, then it's an educational process to try to resolve the conflict. And to resolve that, you have to get people on both sides of the conflict involved so that they can dialogue.

The best mother is the mother who adapts, and the best children are the children who adapt as well.

The best way to resolve any problem in the human world is for all sides to sit down and talk.

I do believe that in order to be a successful negotiator that as a diplomat, you have to be able to put yourself into the other person's shoes. Unless you can understand what is motivating them, you are never going to be able to figure out how to solve a particular problem.

Just because you have a disagreement with your friends or family members does not mean there are not plenty of other areas on which you see eye to eye. It just means you have a difference of opinion.

The intricacies, the problems, the trials and tribulations in relationships inspire me to give words to people's journeys.