Alice Miller Quotes

You're not really free until you're free from trying to please everybody.

Self respect beats social approval, every time.

A meaningful life is not a popularity contest. Do what in your heart you believe to be the right thing, and you may or may not get immediate approval from the world. Do it anyway.

I do not live for what the world thinks of me, but for what I think of myself.

I was more worried about what other people would think rather than, you know, me. But you have got to do what is right for yourself and what you feel comfortable with.

You cannot please everyone, and I think that what's important, ultimately, is to make sure you please yourself. If you start trying to please other people, you'll just go around in circles.

Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind. Absolve you to yourself, and you shall have the suffrage of the world.

Don’t judge yourself by others’ standards…have your own. And don’t get caught up into the trap of changing yourself to fit the world. The world has to change to fit you. And if you stick to your principles, values and morals long enough, it will.

What other people think of me is none of my business. One of the highest places you can get to is being independent of the good opinions of other people.

We must give up the vain idea of trying to please everybody. That is impossible, and the attempt is a mere waste of time. We must be content to walk in Christ's steps, and let the world say what it likes.

So long as you are still worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself can you own yourself.

I'm hesitant to judge people. My favorite saying is "you do you." But, hopefully, you don't have to seek external validation from others to feel good about yourself.

Just being ourselves is the biggest fear of humans. We have learned to live our life trying to satisfy other people's demands. We have learned to live by other people's points of view because of the fear of not being accepted and of not being good enough for someone else.

Don't live your life to please other people.

My problem with the search for the badge of real is that it trades your goals and your happiness for someone else's.

I care a lot about what my girlfriend thinks, and my friends, but ultimately it's me in the mirror. I just want to be proud of what I do.

You cannot live your life looking at yourself from someone else's point of view.

I can spot empty flattery and know exactly where I stand. In the end it's really only my own approval or disapproval that means anything.

I think the world would be a lot better off if more people were to define themselves in terms of their own standards and values and not what other people said or thought about them.

I have learned that as long as I hold fast to my beliefs and values - and follow my own moral compass - then the only expectations I need to live up to are my own.

I think it's very important to do things the way you want to do them and be true to yourself, your own goals, and your own ideals.

For me, I never want anyone outside of my immediate family and outside of me to have the power to alter the way that I walk, talk, shop, or date. When you start feeding off of that outside acceptance and accolades, you lose sight of what's actually real. Once you get there, it's kind of hard to double back.

I do not live for people, for what they think, for them to say that I'm nice, good, the best, perfect. Everyone has their opinion. And I respect that.

I haven't really looked at myself as someone that needs to prove a point to anyone.