Sydney J. Harris Quotes

We hate most in others what we dislike in ourselves.

I did a lot of research on a couple different things. One was, how do people handle hating themselves and hating others? And hatred is a secondary emotion, I think; it always springs from something else ... usually fear, that's probably what it is. So I looked a lot at that.

Hate is crystallized fear, fear's dividend, fear objectivized. We hate what we fear and so where hate is, fear will be lurking.

The most dangerous kind of person... is one who is afraid of his own shadow.

Most hatred is based on fear, one way or another. Yeah. I wrapped myself in anger, with a dash of hate, and at the bottom of it all was an icy center of pure terror.

When we hate a person, what we hate in his image is something inside ourselves. Whatever isn't inside us can't excite us.

Whom men fear they hate, and whom they hate, they wish dead.

The whole question of pornography seems to me a question of secrecy. Without secrecy there would be no pornography. But secrecy and modesty are two utterly different things. Secrecy has always an element of fear in it, amounting very often to hate. Modesty is gentle and reserved. Today, modesty is thrown to the winds, even in the presence of the grey guardians. But secrecy is hugged, being a vice in itself. And the attitude of the grey ones is: Dear young ladies, you may abandon all modesty, so long as you hug your dirty little secret.

The wolf was at the door. His shadow spilled into the room, taking it over.

As love, if love be perfect, casts out fear, so hate, if hate be perfect, casts out fear.

I envy what I fear and hate what I envy.

All belief is a cover-up for insecurity

He who seeks to terrify others is more in fear himself.

This is what you know about someone you have to hate: he charges you with his crime and castigates himself in you.

You know why you hate me so much, Jeffery? Because I look the way you feel.

Our eyes are not viewers, they're also projectors that are running a second story over the picture that we see in front of us all the time. Fear is writing that script, and the working title is 'I'll never be enough'

Hatred is never anything but fear - if you feared no one, you would hate no one.

She had the feeling that the door was looking at her, which she knew was silly, and knew on a deeper level was somehow true.

We see in others what we want and what we fear.

The pervasive attitude is that it's crazy to invite more danger into your life.

Fear is the most valuable commodity in the universe.

His bark is worse than his bite.

We make fun of those we're most scared of becoming.

The major ingredient of any recipe for fear is the unknown.

When someone new comes into your life and suddenly you feel more alive, more beautiful, more sexual, more creative, more desirable and more engaged; you feel that this new person is the key to those feelings. But actually, you have these qualities too. What you don't see and don't acknowledge in yourself, you project onto someone else. Carl Jung explored this very well. He called it projection.