Walter Pater Quotes

You show me someone who can't understand people and I'll show you someone who has built up a false image of himself.

One can win the attention and time and cooperation of even the most sought-after people by becoming genuinely interested in them.

As for 'drawing you out,' please believe I don't do such things deliberately, with an object -- It's only that I am, as a rule, far more interested in people than they are in me -- But it makes me a nuisance, I know: only an innocent nuisance.

Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems.

I envy people who have the capacity to sit with another human being and find them endlessly interesting, I would rather watch TV. Of course this becomes eventually known to the other person.

If sophistication is a matter of being in control of our primary reactions, we may now be sophisticated. At least we shall be fairly confident of ourselves and may, with any luck, be confident of others. Our object will be to enjoy our selves. But to make sure that our names are permanently on the cast list, it will be advisable to be of interest to others. This aim must never be confused with the desire to be popular.

No man can live happily who regards himself alone, who turns everything to his own advantage. Thou must live for another, if thou wishest to live for thyself.

No, I'm not clever. I've always cared more for people than for ideas.

Do you value people who won't benefit you or only those who might contribute in some way to your success? Great team players truly value others as people, and they know and relate to what others value.

If you would stand well with a great mind, leave him with a favorable impression of yourself; if with a little mind, leave him with a favorable impression of himself.

Having a human conversation is not something I've had any training in either as a comedian or as, you know, a human being.

If I want to be a better person for whoever is in my life, I have to learn.

Indeed, I am repeatedly astonished by the number of really good writers who understand human beings so well on paper but don't know how to deal with them in real life.

Personality is an unbroken series of successful gestures.

I'm a lot more interested in people than I used to be. I used to be most interested in abstract ideas, and people were an afterthought, but that's changed a bit.

I like to think I'm a listener, and I'm fascinated by observing people - I suppose you just lock that in.

When you have enough understanding and compassion in you, then that amount of understanding and compassion will try to express itself in action. And your practice should help you to cultivate more understanding and compassion.

Some relationships get easier as you get older, depending on what sort of person you are. I don't think I've got any better at them.

A lot of things I don't do well; I don't do warm and fuzzy well.

There is a difference between being self-interested and being selfish. I will never be selfish.

In my personal life, I would just feel like, I will always be cool with everyone.

I studied psychology in school, and I learned how to understand people's feelings, how to get along with people and relate to people.

I honestly always really try to get people to share their feelings. I always say to everyone that communication is key.

I'm not always smiling when I'm on the golf course. Sometimes, hey, listen, people have regular jobs. You go to them when they're working, and you catch them not in the best moment either. So I understand how people could perceive me. But come get to know me, and I'm totally a different person.

I can really serve the audience instead of making this about me and about serving myself and my pocketbook.