Albert Ellis Quotes

The #1 problem most patients face is the inability to love themselves

There is nothing I need so much as nourishment for my Self Esteem

You have to feel good about yourself.

You can't make someone feel good about themselves until you feel good about yourself.

Most people with low self-esteem have earned it.

Human beings of any age need to approve of themselves; the bad times in history come when they cannot.

The wounded heart learns self-love by first overcoming low self-esteem.

If I don't love myself, I won't survive.

I don't hate myself, as a general rule. I'd say the best way to describe it is that I have moments of self-loathing at fairly regular intervals.

I get literally a physical sensation of low self-esteem that is a result of not engaging the world and getting comfortable that way.

You can only experience love if you have self love.

If you feel inadequate to face challenges, unworthy of love or respect, untitled to happiness, and fear assertive thought, wants, or needs- if you lack basic self trust, self-respect, and self-confidence- your self-esteem deficiency will limit you, no matter what other assets you possess.

Self-esteem and self-love are the opposites of fear; the more you like yourself, the less you fear anything.

Feeling good about ourselves is essential in our being able to love others.

Lack of self-worth is the fundamental source of all emotional pain. A feeling of insecurity, unworthiness and lack of valueis the core experience of powerlessness.

Self-love is an idolatry. Self-hatred is a tragedy.

You don't need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.

If you don't like yourself, you're going to have a really hard time getting along with anyone else.

Humans can always accept themselves unconditionally.

There is only one real misfortune: to forfeit one's own good opinion of oneself. Lose your complacency, once betray your own self-contempt and the world will unhesitatingly endorse it.

To not love ourselves can keep what we want from us.

Self-approval is a dangerous state of mind.

One of the bonuses about loving yourself is that you get to feel good.

No one can give you anything-love, shame, self-esteem- until you give it to yourself. Today, give yourself good things.

Self-deprecation is not an answer to keeping one's balance. I think that it's very damaging.