Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

It is not selfish or narcissistic to love yourself. It is your first and foremost responsibility.

I think the most difficult love begins with one's self. How you treat yourself is something you bring to your relationships.

If you had a person in your life treating you the way you treat yourself, you would have gotten rid of them a long time ago.

Your real influence is measured by your treatment of yourself.

Respect starts with ourselves.

At this very moment, you may be saying to yourself that you have any number of admirable qualities. You are a loyal friend, a caring person, someone who is smart, dependable, fun to be around. That's wonderful, and I'm happy for you, but let me ask you this: are you being any of those things to yourself?

You've got to love yourself first, and until you value yourself enough and love yourself enough to know that, you can't really have a healthy relationship.

If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?

I've learned lately that no one is going to hand me a permission slip and tell me to take time out for me.

The man who does not value himself, cannot value anything or anyone.

The love and attention you always thought you wanted from someone else is the love and attention you first need to give to yourself.

Self-love is the greatest of all flatterers.

Loving yourself has nothing to do with being selfish, self-centered or self-engrossed. It means that you accept yourself for what you are. Loving yourself means that you accept responsibility for your own development, growth and happiness.

You gotta love yourself, because when you're hurting - you never know who's gonna be around to do the lovin' for ya. You gotta love yourself through the pain.

In order to be a friend to anybody, you have to be a friend to yourself. If you're not a friend to yourself, there's no way you're gonna have any friends.

A lot of people say if you can't love yourself, then you can't love others. It's always different, but I definitely have loved a lot in my life.

The feeling that "I am enough" does not mean that I have nothing to learn, nothing further to achieve, and nowhere to grow to. It means that I accept myself, that I am not on trial in my own eyes, that I value and respect myself. This is not an act of indulgence but of courage.

The #1 problem most patients face is the inability to love themselves

But respect yourself most of all.

The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth.

Why should I be angry with a man for loving himself better than me?

You have to love yourself before you can love anyone. I think that’s very, very important, no matter how old you are or what you’re doing. You have to be able to love yourself because that’s when things fall into place.

If I don't love myself, I won't survive.

A portable friend to all readers-especia lly but not only women-who need to learn that the Golden Rule works only if it's reversible: We must learn to treat ourselves as well as we wish to treat others.

Friendship with oneself is all important.