Carolyn Gold Heilbrun Quotes

Marriage is supposed to do everything, like Duz, which is more than half its problem. It is said to save us, define us, give us purpose, keep us from loneliness, and incidentally balance our diet and wash our socks, and when it doesn't, we get divorced.

At first a woman doesn't want anything but a husband, but as soon as gets one, she wants everything else in the world.

all women, without in the least meaning it, consider every man they meet as a possible husband for themselves or for their best friend.

I don't think there's any intrinsic difference between a lover and a husband. ... If I were cynical, I would say that a woman should have both a good husband and a lover. But I'm not cynical so I'll just say that a woman should have a lover who's a good husband and a husband who's a good lover, perhaps both.

I always see people tweeting about these crazy amazing things their boyfriend or girlfriend did for them. You shouldn't have to constantly be trying to prove your love when you're in a relationship.

If we did not look to marriage as the principal source of happiness, fewer marriages would end in tears.

I was 36 when I got married. I was so focused on, 'You wanted a husband, and you wanted a house, and you wanted children.' I've had all those things now.

There is something revolting about the way girls' minds often jump to marriage long before they jump to love. And most of those minds are shut to what marriage really means.

Americans, who make more of marrying for love than any other people, also break up more of their marriages, but the figure reflects not so much the failure of love as the determination of people not to live without it.

When I'm on a second date with a girl, I'll ask myself, 'Can I marry this person?' And we're just trying to decide between salmon and chicken.

A man should be taller, older, heavier, uglier, and hoarser than his wife.

In the West, marriage is collapsing because it is based on love. And a marriage that is based on love is bound to fail. There is a reason for this: whenever two persons fall in love, both of them present what is beautiful in themselves to the other and hide the ugly. When you fall in love, whether you are a man or a woman, you show your most beautiful face to the other - but it is not your reality, it is not your totality.

When you're in love, you're asking someone else to fulfill all your unfulfilled needs, to make you whole, and to make you feel good about everything, and no one can do that.

A woman dictates before marriage in order that she may have an appetite for submission afterwards.

Am I going to be able to be the person I want to be in this relationship?

A marriage is likely to be called happy if neither party ever expected to get much happiness out of it.

If you’re not happy single, your not gonna be happy married.

When a bride insists on telling her lover everything, I suspect she is looking for a father, not a husband.

Pity the married couple who expect too much from one another.

Every so often I would look at my women friends who were happily married and didn't cook, and I would always find myself wondering how they did it. Would anyone love me if I couldn't cook? I always thought cooking was part of the package: Step right up, it's Rachel Samstat, she's bright, she's funny and she can cook!

One exits with one's husband -- one lives with one's lover.

When you gone to get married? You need to have some babies. It’ll settle you.' 'I don’t want to make somebody else. I want to make myself.

Fortunately for women, most men mistake loneliness for love before marriage, and habit for happiness afterward.

I believe that because I had obtained a wife who was made up of wife-signs (beauty, charm, softness, perfume, cookery) I had found love.

A man who doesn't make you feel special, wanted or important would make a very poor husband.