Dorothy Allison Quotes

We live in an epidemic of self-hatred. I see it daily with people coming at me, and they do it to everybody, it's not just me. The hatred is really stemming from them not liking themselves. When you look at it that way, I feel so much empathy and understanding for those people.

The name, his true name, was weaker and more flawed than he would have liked, and he hated himself for that, but there was also much to admire within it, and the more he thought about it, the more he was able to accept the true nature of his self. He was not the best person in the world, but neither was he the worst.

I want you to remember who you are, despite the bad things that are happening to you. Because those bad things aren't you. They are just things that happen to you. You need to accept that who you are and the things that happen you, are not one and the same.

We are all amazing and magical as we are. Just remember to remind me of that on rough days.

Sometimes I gotta look in the mirror and say, 'Hey, they're still saying you're too fat, but you're here! They gotta take it or leave it.' And in most cases, if they leave it, it's all good because they don't need to be in my space anyway.

My parents instilled in me a sense of self that I was more than just a diagnosis or a condition.

You can't allow someone's hate to dictate your life.

Total self acceptance is empowering. It means allowing others to see you as they choose, without being offended.

Love yourself for who you are and just keep going.

To all the seeds that follow me protect your essence, Born with less, but you still precious.

The most important point is to accept yourself and stand on your two feet.

Nothing I accept about myself can be used against me to diminish me.

Loving and accepting ourselves are the ultimate acts of courage.

If you can't stand yourself, neither can anybody else!

Comparison is a brutal assault upon one's self. Once you compare yourself to someone else, what you're really saying is that what you're made of isn't good enough.

I am not who I sleep with. I am not my weight. I am not my mother. I am myself. And I am all of you, and I thank you.

The moment will arrive when you are comfortable with who you are, and what you are- bald or old or fat or poor, successful or struggling- when you don't feel the need to apologize for anything or to deny anything. To be comfortable in your own skin is the beginning of strength.

Self-love is an idolatry. Self-hatred is a tragedy.

We all have a lifelong habit of inferiority to our full self..."

Even for a girl like me, then, there comes a day when she can stop surviving and start living. To survive, you have to look good or talk good. But to end your story well-- here is the truth-- you have to talk yourself out of it.

It is very important that, no matter what happens, you keep your feeling of self worth and value.

I want to be judged by who I am as a person, not by what happened to me. In fact, all the bad things have only contributed to my confidence and sense of self, because I survived them and became a better and stronger person.

Being perfect is being flawed, accepting it, and never letting it make you feel less than your best.

You're your own best friend. If you love yourself and believe in yourself then it doesn't really matter what other people think and then you're kind of invincible.

I am proud of who I am, and nobody's going to steal that.