M. Scott Peck Quotes

Love is an attempt at penetrating another being, but it can only succeed if the surrender is mutual.

I believe now that love is letting people in. Love is bigger than all of us.

Listening is much more than allowing another to talk while waiting for a chance to respond. Listening is paying full attention to others and welcoming them into our very beings. The beauty of listening is that those who are listened to start feeling accepted, start taking our words more seriously and discovering their true selves.

Listening is where love begins: listening to ourselves and then to our neighbors.

If you don't understand, ask questions. If you're uncomfortable about asking questions, say you are uncomfortable about asking questions and then ask anyway. It's easy to tell when a question is coming from a good place. Then listen some more. Sometimes people just want to feel heard. Here's to possibilities of friendship and connection and understanding.

You could penetrate anybody if you consistently put out love. Some people can't handle it.

I don't think love is a tricky issue at all. Love is best understood when we share: Share time, energy, food, resources, insights, information, whatever. It's usually thought of as something that exists between two people, but that's just because it's easier to see and feel in the space between them. Each person is sharing a lot with the other.

Love is very dangerous if you just have love and don't have the ability to be lovable.

If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend.

Lasting love has to be built on mutual regard and respect. It is about seeing the other person. I am very interested in relationships and, when I watch couples, sometimes I can sense a blindness has set in. They have stopped seeing each other. It is not easy to see another person.

I think there's an ongoing effort involved in trying to get a bigger perspective, trying to let go of things that limit your capacity to love and be loved or your capacity to hear and to really speak.

For you to ask advice on the rules of love is no better than to ask advice on the rules of madness.

When you are honest and open with young people, they let you in.

A pick-up artist gave me a good piece of advice: the three most important things in a relationship are honesty, trust and respect, and if you don't have those, you don't have love.

You can only love and be loved to the extent that you know and are known by somebody.

We all struggle with our failure to communicate and our failure to reach beyond fear to love people.

I'm constantly astounded by the way people talk so openly to someone they don't know. They clarify in their own minds what is important to them, discover another person has similar problems, and create trust and even a friendship.

When you are open about your things, people feel more able to talk to you. I think that's a nice thing, because people get help and don't feel so isolated.

I have a lot of people in my life, and I think there's something key: the thing that leads to intimacy and relationship and connection is tenderness.

Anything will give up its secrets if you love it enough. Not only have I found that when I talk to the little flower or to the little peanut they will give up their secrets, but I have found that when I silently commune with people, they give up their secrets also - if you love them enough.

Love is - OK, it's 20 things, but it isn't 19. And I think that love reaches for something which is very, very deep in us and is very easily obscured, and is also very easily denied, which is the instinct towards the other person, other than toward the self.

I think people are willing to talk about anything if you come to it with kindness.

It's important to have frank discussions about what the other wants. To be in a relationship that is like a little lifetime, that's a challenge.

One of the key factors of life is love, and the key factor of God is love, so having that understanding is really important in a relationship. Having someone that genuinely respects you and understands your life and is open to hearing about your life is really cool.

I don't think there is any set formula to have a good relationship.