Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Quotes

Can you make yourself love? Can you make yourself loved? -Lena Kaligaris

If people can find something that they love about themselves after going to one of my shows, then I am so addicted to that feeling. It's the most gratifying thing on earth.

You will always move toward anyone who increases you and away from anyone who makes you less.

Don't try to change anybody. And they should let you be yourself, 'You loved me when you met me, so let's keep going!'

When you meet someone you love, whether or not they love you back, something occurs in you that makes you want to improve yourself.

The finest lesson I've learned with age is that all I need is a small team of comrades who inspire me, try not to judge me, and remind me when I'm judging myself.

I hope that I can be a role model and positive influence to anyone else who is struggling with insecurities within themselves.

I've got to like myself, I think, through my relationship with Sting, who pours love over me.

I think the most difficult love begins with one's self. How you treat yourself is something you bring to your relationships.

I can't say I cared much for you when I first came back. There's that crappy attitude of yours, and you're ugly, but you kind of grow on a guy." Immensely cheered, Seth snickered. "You're uglier." "I'm bigger, I'm entitled. So I guess I'll hang around to see if you get any prettier as time goes on." "I didn't really want you to go," Seth said under his breath after a long moment. It was the closest he could get to speaking his heart. "I know.

Love is a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them - we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

Radical self-care is what we've been longing for, desperate for, our entire lives-friendship with our own hearts.

The surest aid in combating the male's disease of self-contempt is to be loved by a clever woman.

Let’s always love each other, and never be in love with each other.

She rested her head against his and felt, for the first time, what she would often feel with him: a self-affection. He made her like herself. With him, she was at ease; her skin felt as though it was her right size.. It seemed so natural, to talk to him about odd things. She had never done that before. The trust, so sudden and yet so complete, and the intimacy, frightened her.. But now she could think only of all the things she yet wanted to tell him, wanted to do with him.

When you look back... on your love affairs... what you really find out is that the only person you really go to bed with is yourself.

Even going through the motions is a way of establishing a new relationship with our inner life that is caring and tender, versus one that is judging, distancing or ignoring. This is the beginning of being capable of intimacy with others.

Ask Baby can you be truly part of someone you love." "He says only if you love yourself.

Your light is seen, your heart is known, your soul is cherished by more people than you might imagine. If you knew how many others have been touched in wonderful ways by you, you would be astonished. If you knew how many people feel so much for you, you would be shocked. You are far more wonderful than you think you are. Rest with that. Rest easy with that. Breathe again. You are doing fine. More than fine. Better than fine. You’re doin’ great. So relax. And love yourself today.

Man naturally desires, not only to be loved, but to be lovely; or to be that thing which is the natural and proper object of love.

Love is the most subtle form of self-interest.

Is it needy? It's not. We don't need each other. We just really, really enjoy each other. And we're good together. We're good people together. And I have the funniest feeling. I can really, truly touch this all, this happiness and the sadness too, I can trace all of it with my fingers. It isn't theoretical or distant. This feels like me. This is me. I love him, and, for the first time in a relationship, I also like me. Every time he says "I love you," I answer, "I believe you.

Take the time to define yourself and define your value. If you're having a hard time doing that, ask yourself: What is something I would say to someone I love?

Not for the first time, I reflected that intimacy and romance are not synonymous.

Whom you would change, you must first love.