Graham Joyce Quotes

I have a hot memory, but I know I've forgotten many things, too, just squashed things in favor of survival.

A neurosis is a secret that you don't know you are keeping.

If our subconscious was attractive, we wouldn't have to bury it down deep within us.

The more we deny that we have a dark side, the more power it has over us.

Psychoanalysis is the confession without absolution.

I don't have any dark desires. And I think most people don't. A few have dark desires and don't sublimate them.

I think when people are repressing things, or burying things, that can manifest in all sorts of ways.

Sometimes you have compulsions that you can't control coming from the subconscious... they are the dictator inside ourselves.

If you don't allow your aggression or negative feelings to be expressed in your waking life, then it migrates into your subconscious.

I bury things in the back of my mind I don't really want to deal with.

David Lynch's 'Fire Walk With Me' has a scene in it that scared me so bad that I don't remember it. I blocked the memory out - repeatedly! I've seen the film two or three times, and I can never remember what it is that scares me.

As soon as you try to eliminate a thought or emotion, you make it stronger.

Psychoanalysis is essentially a theory of unconscious strivings, of resistance, of falsification of reality according to one's subjective needs and expectations.

I hit my head against the wall because I don't want to know all the terrible things that I know about. I don't want to feel all these wretched things, but they're in me already. If I don't get rid of them, I'm not ever going to feel anything else.

Denial can be a pathology or a survival mechanism - and sometimes it's both.

Remembering how my mother looked before she gave birth to my sister is frightening. But even more frightening is the feeling that I wanted them to catch me and beat me. Why did I want to be punished? Shadows out of the past clutch at my legs and drag me down. I open my mouth to scream, but I am voiceless. My hands are trembling, I feel cold, and there is a distant humming in my ears.

The unconscious is not a demoniacal monster, but a natural entity which, as far as moral sense, aesthetic taste, and intellectual judgment go, is completely neutral.It only becomes dangerous when our conscious attitude to it is hopelessly wrong. To the degree that we repress it, its danger increases.

One of the best ways of repressing emotions is artificial certainty.

I study Carl Jung, who talks a lot about the shadow side, the repressed side. I think the scariest thing in the world is repression. There's plenty to be idealistic about, but we have to be aware of all sides of ourselves, and there are definitely shadows in all of us.

The great majority of us are required to live a constant, systematic duplicity. Your health is bound to be affected by it if, day after day, you say the opposite of what you feel, you grovel before what you dislike and rejoice at what bring brings you nothing but misfortune. Our nervous system isn’t just a fiction, it’s part of our physical body, and our soul exists in space and is inside us, like teeth in our mouth. It can’t be forever violated with impunity.

When a condition or a problem becomes too great, humans have the protection of not thinking about it. But it goes inward and minces up with a lot of other things already there and what comes out is discontent and uneasiness, guilt and a compulsion to get something--anything--before it is all gone.

I know I probably have a lot of rage in me that I don't show. But I'm not about to wallow in it or reveal it.

When expressions of emotion are dangerous, and when you are constantly told that this terrible thing is being done for your own good, you quickly learn to hide your true feelings, even from yourself.

In 'The Darkest Minds,' Zu's trauma manifests in her choosing to remain silent. It's her one small way she can feel in control of her otherwise uncontrollable situation.

Even with me, there are so many things I have bottled up.