Ann Voskamp Quotes

Lack of communication is the key to any successful relationship going wrong.

Okay, I don’t like it when you walk away from me, but other than that...(Arik) Yeah, I guess that makes sense. You transcend a dimension to come here and I brush you off. I can see where that might get annoying. (Geary)

I think what creates a winner is a person who can connect with their partner - another human being.. connect with their soul

In human intercourse the tragedy begins, not when there is misunderstanding about words, but when silence is not understood.

There is no such thing as emotional incompatibility. There are only misunderstandings and mistakes which can easily be set right if we have the will to do so.

Is it not important to find out how to listen not only to what is being said but to everything - to the noise in the streets, to the chatter of birds, to the noise of the tramcar, to the restless sea, to the voice of your husband, to your wife, to your friends, to the cry of a baby?

When a woman says the connection is gone, don't tell her how hot she is. A connection is more than someone's appearance.

If only it was effortless to understand you because if it wasn't so. . .there wouldn't be any point to be by your side... —kakeru manabe

No, Mom. I said fine." "It's just your tone." Ah, yes- the tone. The nasty traitor.

When I'm wrong it's never meant for you, so don't confuse my love with what I do.

There is such a thing as looking through a person's eyes into the heart, and learning more of the height, and breadth, and depth of another's soul in one hour than it might take you a lifetime to discover, if he or she were not disposed to reveal it, or if you had not the sense to understand it.

Try to understand men. If you understand each other you will be kind to each other. Knowing a man well never leads to hate and almost always leads to love.

In a very unscientific statement, I feel that there's been a disconnect between this clever brain and the heart.

There's no more usual basis of union than mutual misunderstanding.

There is no formula to relationships. They have to be negotiated in loving ways, with room for both parties, what they want and what they need, what they can do and what their life is like.

We are different. We are equal in every way but our voices are important to each other and our need to want to listen to each other and try to understand, because sometimes we are so difficult to understand. Men to understand us, and we to understand men. And we don't. We don't connect the way we should.

Men and women would be even more unhappy if they really understood one another.

No. Haven’t you been listening?” Marcus would always remember that moment. It was to be the first time he would ever be faced with that most vexing of female quirks: the question that had nothing but wrong answers.

The overall purpose of human communication is - or should be - reconciliation. It should ultimately serve to lower or remove the walls of misunderstanding which unduly separate us human beings, one from another.

Let me tell you, a discussion that starts, 'I'll tell you something you do that irritates me, if you tell me something I do that bothers you,' never ends in a hug and a kiss.

If I'm not happy with how someone is showing up, I can only be honest and hope that my feelings resonate and inspire a deeper look into oneself.

To understand is nothing, but to be understood-that is the problem and the source of anguish. The soul throbs and would have the other know-but can not and feels isolated. Then come gestures, words, awkward explanations and material symbols for imponderable outbursts of feeling-and the soul despairs.

I am not being obtuse. You are being paranoid.

Until we invent telepathy, books are our best choice for understanding the rest of humanity.

For leaders to be effective, they need to connect with people.