Amanda de Cadenet Quotes

When you're trying to persuade people, more often than not, they feel you're being pushy. When you focus on influencing them, they're much less defensive and open to hearing what you have to say.

One of my strengths is my ability to talk and communicate with people.

You do have to do business with and to try to influence people you don't agree with, or find disagreeable, so it's important to stress that balance.

Don't beg, don't threaten and don't assume you're always right.

The more people talk directly to each other, the better. Dialogue is the way of solving issues.

When you're not being heard - I can't tell you what to do when you're not being heard. I do think there is a way to move in love and get things done, though.

I'm a very friendly person, and I think that's had a big impact on my work because I tend to be pretty good with not trying to always win every argument and things like that. I just sort of try to bring a lot of people together to talk.

To be successful, you really have to put your ego in the background and try to be diplomatic to achieve what you want to achieve.

But I think that sensitivity is also a good counsellor when it comes to enforcing one's interests.

I've grown up a little bit. I understand the importance of the negotiation. It is a collective act.

This applies to many film jobs, not just editing: half the job is doing the job, and the other half is finding ways to get along with people and tuning yourself in to the delicacy of the situation.

The greatest ability in business is to get along with others and to influence their actions.

In running Wilson Sonsini, it's all people-to-people skills. Those people-to-people skills translate into diplomatic skills.

Some people are like wheelbarrows; useful only when pushed, and very easily upset. The time to stop talking is when the other person nods his head affirmatively but says nothing.

Both times I was in India, I could not get people to listen to each other. I had to literally tell people to listen to each other and tell them that they can't get creative and find alternate solutions if they don't listen to each other. There's a lot of arguing and justifying.

Problems should be solved by talking and not in an aggressive manner.

If you listen, you'll learn. If you talk over each other, you don't accomplish anything.

It is an excellent rule to be observed in all disputes, that men should give soft words and hard arguments; that they should not so much strive to vex as to convince each other.

You don’t have to be confrontational of aggressive to get to where you want to be or get people to do what you want to do.

I want to prove that you can get things done without having everyone dislike you – ie acting like a politician.

It doesn’t matter if you’ve got the right side of the argument, it just matters whether you have the right ear.

if we stop talking at one another, and start talking with one another, we can get a lot done.

A huge amount of negotiations and diplomacy has nothing to do with bartering or arguing but is just trying to get everyone [doing the negotiating] on the same page. It takes yours, days, even weeks sometimes.

In politics, you must learn to say 'no' without offending people. That is an art that one must master: to satisfy a person even when you have to say 'no' to him.

What I've learned - after working for, I guess, some time now - is when you're approaching a relationship like that, like, any working relationship, it's good to be open. To know that someone might have a different way of doing things and listen to them. And hopefully, you come to a common understanding.