Adam Grant Quotes

I cannot, will never, understand these couples who hate each other, who conduct open warfare in front of their children - the kind of people who have to drop the kids off at the end of the driveway in case they lay eyes on one another. At the very least, civility must reign.

I think most people have experienced that at some point: being on one end or the other of a super-unbalanced relationship.

When you meet a lot of people and you date somebody, or you're just in a relationship with friends, lovers, business, or whatever it may be, there are people that are just toxic to you, and you don't even know it yourself.

Neurotic quarrels always have the same theme-song: Hate me and get it over with.

I want to get away from the social vampires in Tucson. The people who have no lives of their own and meet me and know who I am and feel entitled to say negative things. I have good friends here, especially in the bands. But a lot of it is just like high school.

I stay away from negative relationships. They are energy-sapping vampires. I can't handle them.

My relationship with my mom is really bad.

The trouble is that, while my parents were great when they were apart, they were terrible together.

You can't be around people who appease you all the time.

The only relationships I haven't wrecked right away were the ones that wrecked me later.

I had people in my life who were insane and negative, but they taught me how not to be, how I didn't want to end up.

And I could see this boy doing his homework and thinking about my sister naked. And I could see them holding hands at football games that they do not watch. And I could see this boy throwing up in the bushes at a party house. And I could see my sister putting up with it. And I felt very bad for both of them.

Something that's unsustainable, like a dysfunctional relationship, can go on longer than you expect, and then end faster and messier than you think.

We are injured and angry, scared and sad. Some families, like some couples, become toxic to each other after prolonged exposure.

I was having a bit of trouble. I wasn't in a good relationship. Or I was in too many bad relationships. I had so many girlfriends at that point. None of them seemed to care they weren't pleasing me very much. I was obviously in with the wrong group.

Why do I and everyone I love pick people who treat us like we're nothing"; - "We accept the love we think we deserve.

Women love those best (whether men, women, or children) who give them most pain.

I didn't know that being in a relationship meant you had to be nice. I thought it meant you had to hack away at the other person until they were beaten down and then were too afraid to leave.

The most violent friendships soonest wear themselves out.

Divorce lawyers stoke anger and fear in their clients, knowing that as long as the conflicts remain unresolved the revenue stream will keep flowing.

The guy who broke up with me... he was exactly like you, in the beginning. Charming, and nice. They're all like you in the beginning. But I always end up like this. And I can't do it anymore.

Don't hold onto negative feelings by justifying why you are right and someone else is wrong.

Callin my ex-girl or e-mailin my mama, you're the only one that's causin me this drama.

If someone comes along and shoots an arrow into your heart, it's fruitless to stand there and yell at the person. It would be much better to turn your attention to the fact that there's an arrow in your heart.

I appealed to my mother. I told her it wasn't fair the way the whole family was invading my dreams and she said, Arrah, for the love o' God, drink your tea and go to school and stop tormenting us with your dreams.