Susanne Bier Quotes

You'd just be amazed what people will do. You really would. And not crazy people. Ostensibly normal people. When the right person touches the right button in someone, you can get them to do almost anything.

We all know guys who've had their hearts broken in real life; we just don't usually see it in the movies.

Indeed, I am repeatedly astonished by the number of really good writers who understand human beings so well on paper but don't know how to deal with them in real life.

I'm not much of a matchmaker. I think people have to make their own choices and mistakes and all that stuff.

What I'd really like to control is not machines, but people.

I like dressing up for dates and dissecting a dinner conversation with a new guy to determine if he might be The One.

Humans cannot avoid trying to influence others. Everything we say or do is examined and interpreted by others for clues as to our intentions.

Tinder is the ultimate gamification of romance. It's 'Pokemon Go' for the heart.

The only way a woman can ever reform a man is by boring him so completely that he loses all possible interest in life.

Love and businesse teach eloquence.

Once you decide not to worry about that stuff anymore, dating and relationships and love and all that, it's like you're free to get on with real life.

Women can resist a man's love, a man's fame, a man's personal appearance, and a man's money, but they cannot resist a man's tongue when he knows how to talk to them.

Every relationship is fundamentally a power struggle, and the individual in power is whoever likes the other person less.

People who get married because they're in love make a ridiculous mistake. It makes much more sense to marry your best friend. You like your best friend more than anyone you're ever going to be in love with. You dont choose your best friend because they have a cute nose.

Why do you do up your hair in those tortured plaits, now, Melanie? Why? Because, she said. You know that's no answer. You're spoiling your pretty looks, pet. Come here. She did not move. He ground out his cigarette on the window-ledge and laughed. Come here, he said again, softly. So she went.

I've had only one idea in my life - a true idee fixe. To put it as bluntly as possible - the idea of having my own way. 'Control!' expresses it. The control of human behavior. In my early experimental days it was a frenzied, selfish desire to dominate. I remember the rage I used to feel when a prediction went awry. I could have shouted at the subjects of my experiments, 'Behave, damn you! Behave as you ought!

Women never really command until they have given their promise to obey; and they are never in more danger of being made slaves than when the men are at their feet.

I sometimes think love consists precisely of the voluntary gift by the loved object of the right to tyrannize over it.

A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word 'no.' Love respects 'no,' control does not.

The school of relationships is where you learn self-knowledge. I just don't know how you could learn it sitting alone in the desert on a rock by yourself. You have to see where you fail at it. And that confrontation with your own ability - "I was again not able to love" - those are the teachable moments.

An Oxe is taken by the horns, and a Man by the tongue.

I would rather you love me, but if not love, fear will do.

Much of living is an attempt to preserve oneself by annexing and occupying others.

We are all salesmen every day of our lives. We are selling our ideas, our plans, our enthusiasms to those with whom we come in contact.

He was making her feel small and absurdly petulant and, worse yet, she suspected he was right. She always suspected he was right. For a brief irrational moment, she wished she could walk away from him. Then she wished, more rationally, that she could love him without needing him. Need gave him power without his trying; need was the choicelessness she often felt around him.