Melody Beattie Quotes

Good women always think it is their fault when someone else is being offensive. Bad women never take the blame for anything.

If you're hit with a lawsuit that's untrue and the reasons you're hit with it aren't clear to you, there's a very big inclination on people's part to want to take responsibility for it - that this must be happening because I'm a terrible person, I did something, and I'm getting repaid for it.

All I can say is it's improper to criticize someone 30 years later.

Guilt can prevent us from setting the boundaries that would be in our best interests, and in other people's best interests.

The only thing worse than an active conscience is one that's retroactive.

I'm guilty for a lot of things.

If I don't call my mom back, she'll go on Twitter and say, 'Adam hasn't called me. I'm worried about him,' and strangers will say, 'You're horrible. You go call your mom right now!' It's very complicated.

I've got no interest in justifying myself to a player of mine.

Guilt stirs me, but only to self-pity.

To create guilt, all that you need is a very simple thing: start calling mistakes, errors - sins. They are simply mistakes, human. Now, if somebody commits a mistake in mathematics - two plus two, and he concludes it makes five - you don't say he has committed a sin. He is unalert, he is not paying attention to what he is doing. He is unprepared, he has not done his homework. He is certainly committing a mistake, but a mistake is not a sin. It can be corrected. A mistake does not make him feel guilty. At the most it makes him feel foolish.

If you don't stop apologizing, you're going to convince me you've done something wrong.

Some blame themselves to extort the praise of contradiction from others.

Sometimes, if she simply remained quiet, and let the inadequacy of his excuses reverberate on the air, he became ashamed and backtracked.

Pride is not a word or sentiment I can ascribe to anything I have done or do. As far as regret, it is a luxury I can not afford. Anything I did, that was bad or wrong or regretful, I stand accused, I am guilty and I'm ready to serve my time.

When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated.

I know it's my fault I should've gave more.

Don't try to blame the rest of the world. The blame only lies with you. Recognize that immediately.

I do not plan in any way to whitewash my sin. I do not call it a mistake, a mendacity; I call it sin. I would much rather, if possible - and in my estimation it would not be possible - to make it worse than less than it actually is. I have no one but myself to blame. I do not lay the fault or the blame of the charge at anyone else's feet. For no one is to blame but I take the responsibility. I take the blame. I take the fault.

I took all the blame. I admitted mistakes I hadn't made, intentions I'd never had. Whenever she turned cold and hard, I begged her to be good to me again, to forgive me and love me. Sometimes I had the feeling that she hurt herself when she turned cold and rigid. As if what she was yearning for was the warmth of my apologies, protestations, and entreaties. Sometimes I thought she just bullied me. But either way, I had no choice.

Before you accuse me, take a look at yourself.

You can bear anything if it is not your fault.

I came to see that there was nothing to forgive, that I was the one who caused my own problems.

Nobody likes to offer stupidity as an excuse.

It is a little theory of mine that has much exercised my mind lately, that most of the problems of this silly and delightful world derive from our apologising for those things which we ought not to apologise for, and failing to apologise for those things for which apology is necessary.

Guilt is not a response to anger; it is a response to one's own actions or lack of action.