Rachel Kushner Quotes

Fine. You don’t want to be good enough for me, then you will never be. I deserve someone who wants to be what I need.

I always believe in earning love. I consider unconditional love to be one of the worst ideas developed

He held her gaze steady while he summarized her promises. “She will honor me, protect me, obey me only when she believes I’m being reasonable—but I shouldn’t hold out hope that that day will ever come—try to love me before she’s an old woman, and I’d better get it straight in my mind that she will respect me until or unless I do something to prove I’m not worthy, and God save me then. Have I left anything out, Brenna?

You believe what you want to believe

Love does not exist, it's like religion, the state wants you to believe in that kind of crap so they can control you, and f**k your head up.

Parents were the only ones obligated to love you; from the rest of the world you had to earn it.

If you feel strongly about something and you want to voice your opinion, I feel it's your right, so, that's how I look at it because that's how life is.

......When one loves, one is only too ready to believe one's love returned.

If you want to know what a given society believes in, look at what its largest buildings are devoted to.

I don't believe in soul mates, not exactly. I think it's ridiculous to think there's only one person out there for us. What if your 'soul mate' lives in Zimbabwe? What if he dies young? I also think 'two souls becoming one' is ridiculous. You need to hold on to yourself. But I do believe in souls being in sync, souls that mirror each other.

You can never know anyone as completely as you want. But that’s okay, love is better.

My whole thing is, if you love me, then love me. If you don't, then believe what you hear and run with that.

I'm anti-Valentine's Day. I don't believe - and this goes for anybody - your man shouldn't love you for one day out of 365. He should love you 365 days out of the year. I want Valentine's Day every day.

All I want, is for you to love me. Not because of what I can do or what I look like, or because I love you - just because I am.

I believe He wants us to love others so much that we go to extremes to help them.

Our nature is to desperately want to believe and to take what we believe is the quickest path there even against our better judgment.

Avoid providing material for the drama that is always stretched tight between parents and children; it uses up much of the children’s strength and wastes the love of the elders, which acts and warms even if it doesn’t comprehend. Don’t ask for advice from them and don’t expect any understanding; but believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is strength and blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.

That's fairly common. We don't believe anything we don't want to believe.

I believe in love — yes, I'm one of those girls. Most of my friends believe in love. I went out with Katy Perry last night. She's so fun and awesome, but it's cool to see someone older believe in love too. She is all about it, and that's how I will always be. I believe in stories like, 'Oh, I met him in Starbucks.'

If I were God, I certainly wouldn't want people to love me sentimentally. It's too unreliable.

For a woman, love is the highest dream, and if a man promises to build a ladder tall enough to reach it, she believes him, hikes up her skirt, and follows him to the stars.

We believe what we want to, what we need to. The corollary is that we choose not to see what we'd rather pretend doesn't exist.

It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, you are never going to be what that person wants you to be.

At the end of their relationship she asked if they could still remain friends. His face stayed expressionless until he said "No. Because we put friends in boxes. You see them once in a while, or even a lot, but still they have their box in your life, their specific place. Their *category.* That's one of the great things about being someone's love-- you have no box in their life because you're part of all their boxes. You're their friend, their lover, their confidante-- all those things. I don't want to be put in one of your boxes and I don't want to shrink you to fit into one of mine.

Society teaches us conditional love; i.e., "I love you if you are the way I want you to be."