Frederick Buechner Quotes

You're only lonely if you're not there for you.

You can't let someone else lower your self-esteem, because that's what it is - self-esteem. You need to first love yourself before you have anybody else love you.

We need to make friends with ourselves. We are stuck with our self all day, so let's be kinder, gentler, more amusing company. Let's take our own hand and say, 'There, there, sister. You're doing a good job. I'm proud of how you're handling all this craziness down here. Don't give up. Carry on, warrior.'

Only you can give yourself the love you need and deserve.

You've got to be your own best friend.

If you don't have self love you can never find it outside of yourself.

You gotta love yourself, because when you're hurting - you never know who's gonna be around to do the lovin' for ya. You gotta love yourself through the pain.

Self-love is a busy prompter.

Love yourself before any other person. That's when you can really survive on your own.

If you respect yourself and you love yourself, that's the only way anybody else is going to.

Laugh and dare to try to love somebody, starting with yourself. You must love yourself first, of course, and you must protect yourself so that nobody overrides you, overrules you, or steps on you. Just say, 'Just a minute. I'm worth everything, dear.'

Dare to love yourself

I do not need to love you to prove that I love myself!!

Until you value yourself enough and love yourself enough to know that, you can't really have a healthy relationship.

I believe that discipline and self-love are the total secrets to freedom.

Self-compassion is key because when we're able to be gentle with ourselves in the midst of shame, we're more likely to reach out, connect, and experience empathy.

It's hard to practice compassion when we're struggling with our authenticity or when our own worthiness is off-balance.

What you see is what you get. My God, I don't have the time nor the energy to live up to some persona.

I just want to say to women, 'Be yourself - it's the inner beauty that counts. You are your own best friend, the key to your own happiness, and as soon as you understand that - and it takes a few heartbreaks - you can be happy.'

Sometimes you just got to give yourself what you wish someone else would give you.

Age has given me the gift of me; it just gave me what I was always longing for, which was to get to be the woman I've already dreamt of being. Which is somebody who can do rest and do hard work and be a really constant companion, a constant, tender-hearted wife to myself.

I feel like I have a healthy self-esteem.

Your self-esteem won't come from body parts. You need to step away from the mirror every once in a while, and look for another reflection, like the one in the eyes of the people who love you and admire you.

Sometimes I gotta look in the mirror and say, 'Hey, they're still saying you're too fat, but you're here! They gotta take it or leave it.' And in most cases, if they leave it, it's all good because they don't need to be in my space anyway.

My number one thing is be kind to yourself. We can't control what other people do, we can only control what we do.