Pam Grier Quotes

I think my biggest focus for myself is learning how to continue to get through the trauma that my father has caused in my life.

I did not realize how broken I was until I saw how broken Mama was.

Never marry a man who hates his mother because he'll end up hating you.

My father's violence is the central fact of my art and my life.

That's what my mother did. And my father was the first person she'd met who treated her kindly. She was terrified of men, and she married a very meek, kind, dear man. And she had the upper hand. She ruled the roost.

Women are interested in relationships and how other societies manage those relationships. They may have been constrained in what roles were open to them, but they could question and observe, and they could write it down.

The pattern often has been entrenched since childhood... [abusive people] don't think that there is anything wrong with them because that is the way they were brought up in their family.

For that is what a child should be, and seldom is, the product of man and woman, of opposing natures, unified, however temporarily, by the amazing, circling, weaving dance of love and lust and God's involvement in it.

Those traumas when it comes to the historical past generation to generation; our children, our grandchildren, our future grandchildren learn these behaviors. We have to know that they exist and we have to take care of those traumas and learn to heal from them. This movie shows that perspective from Scott's character, and I love it. It shows the American Indians as the ones who respect and help out when people are needed. It's a nice little twist.

When you're in a broken family and your role model is a violent male, boys grow up believing that's the way they're supposed to act. And girls think that's an accepted way men will treat them.

Boy Meets Girl, So What?

We need other human beings in order to be human.

[Sexual abuse] is such a sharp, potent topic that we really should have discussions about more openly and more often.

Always admired men who had many women. It must be that to a child of a dissatisfied woman the idea of monogamy is hollow.

My Papa's Waltz: The whiskey on your breath Could make a small boy dizzy; But I hung on like death: Such waltzing was not easy. We romped until the pans Slid from the kitchen shelf; My mother's countenance Could not unfrown itself. The hand that held my wrist Was battered on one knuckle; At every step you missed My right ear scraped a buckle. You beat time on my head With a palm caked hard by dirt, Then waltzed me off to bed Still clinging to your shirt.

I cannot live without people. I need to live my life with others.

While it may not be a simple act, offering forgiveness not only has the power to heal relationships, it strengthens the well-being of those who give this life-changing gift.

I'm just your everyday woman who is trying to feel good and be healthy for her daughter, her fiancé, and herself.

The more isolated and disconnected we are, the more shattered and distorted our self-identity. We are not healthy when we are alone. We find ourselves when we connect to others. Without community we don't know who we are... When we live outside of healthy community, we not only lose others. We lose ourselves...Who we understand ourselves to be is dramatically affected for better or worse by those we hold closest to us.

The husband provides direction; the wife, maintenance.

Illness is a clumsy attempt to arrive at health: we must come to nature's aid with intellect.

What makes something better is connection.

Long-term trauma for women who have survived armed conflict is a haunting reminder that health issues and depression can follow decades after the end of war, but women who hope for healing can and do move forward.

Guys have guy/girl relationships so that they can have their own guy thing plus the sensitive thing with the girl.

A man can never compete with a woman's father