Lauren Mayberry Quotes

Skillful conversationalists can explore disagreements and make points in ways that feel constructive and positive rather than combative or corrective.

If you want your kids to listen to you, don't yell at them. Whisper. Make them lean in. My kids taught me that. And I do it with adults now.

Avoid sarcasm. Don't insist on the last word.

Don't Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

We cannot have that relationship if we only dictate or threaten and condemn those who disagree.

The list of problems that we all experience may be endless, but I honestly cannot abide by the rule that, 'He who yells louder is heard.'

The most difficult thing to do is to communicate the positive.

There's a certain time that when somebody asks you a question, you answer them. I don't think I said anything with venom. If you can express yourself without anger and make it as palatable as you can, that's what you do.

If you let things devolve into a shouting match, then it's really difficult to have a discussion, a serious discussion.

The key is that when we disagree, we really hear the other one out and agree that there is a more elegant solution than one of us 'winning.'

The greatest communication skill is paying value to others.

Know how to listen, and you will profit even from those who talk badly.

Learning is a result of listening, which in turn leads to even better listening and attentiveness to the other person. In other words, to learn from the child, we must have empathy, and empathy grows as we learn.

The most intense conflicts, if overcome, leave behind a sense of security and calm that is not easily disturbed. It is just these intense conflicts and their conflagration which are needed to produce valuable and lasting results.

Obama's stern demeanor punctuated by intermittent flashes of his wide, relaxing smile is his greatest weapon in defusing pent-up angst.

Communication is a skill that you can learn. It's like riding a bicycle or typing. If you're willing to work at it, you can rapidly improve the quality of evry part of your life.

It's better to get smart than to get mad. I try not to get so insulted that I will not take advantage of an opportunity to persuade people to change their minds.

One of the other things I think that I've been able to do in my life, is to listen well.

If something happens, you have to realize that you can't just yell at people all the time.

To listen well is as powerful a means of communication and influence as to talk well.

At one time or another, we have all faced the temptation to disconnect by giving someone the silent treatment. After being married to Joel for more than twenty-one years, I have learned that is not the best way to handle a disagreement.

Effective listening is something that can absolutely be learned and mastered. Even if you find attentive listening difficult and, in certain situations, boring or unpleasant, that doesn't mean you can't do it. You just have to know what to work on.

Nothing could happen to me in the water that would make me want to go on the beach and fight someone. That's just not how I do things.

Violent statements and threats cannot provide a solution to the problem. They can only exacerbate feeling and make a clash of forces inevitable.

I'd rather lose an argument than get into a long discussion in order to win it.