Don Miguel Ruiz Quotes

What will support any relationship is clear, complete and conscious conversations when upsets or breakdowns occur.

Don't make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.

I'd rather laugh - not fuss and fight. You can articulate your point without arguing. When you're arguing constantly, you just need to say, 'You're real cool, but you're not for me.'

My stay-married secret would probably be exercising good communication, not when you have to but all the time. I think if you do that, you kinda just cleanse the situations, so there's not build up. I think that's probably the best way to do it.

Sometimes, we feel like we don't want to offend people, but there are times that we need to express ourselves without fear that somebody is going to shut us down simply because we have differing opinions. That's how we grow.

Listening is more important than talking. Just hit your mark and believe what you say. Just listen to people and react to what they are saying.

I can do whatever I want. They will tell me if what I am doing is stupid or a total waste of time. I may tell them that they are wrong, and we will come to an agreement.

I'm not passive aggressive. If something bothers me, I think about it, then I act on it. I express it.

I've always been very aware of what I'm saying, but I'm also aware of what you're saying. I always want to make sure that my point is clear.

People get in fights because they don't communicate, because you don't want to hurt the other person.

As we mature, there are people with whom we run out of steam, but there are also those with whom a little straight talking would prove rewarding.

Why don't you talk, and go straight, and let all be well?

I expect if people have had a problem with me or my attitude, then they come and take it directly with me, face to face.

If I had a row with my husband, it's not going to work my saying, 'Right, if you don't do what I want, I'm going to walk out.' It doesn't work on any level. What you do is you go in and you say, 'I have a problem. You have a problem. Let's try and sort this out together.' You don't come to an agreement with people who you're falling out with badly.

We need to stop telling each other to shut up. We need to get comfortable with the reality that no one is going to shut up.

I honestly always really try to get people to share their feelings. I always say to everyone that communication is key.

I've come to terms with the fact that standing and screaming in someone's face about how wrong they are is never gonna make anyone change.

My whole thing is this - and this is how I am in real life - if you start talking to me crazy, I'm not engaging in that. I'm just not saying anything.

If your first objective in the negotiation, instead of making your argument, is to hear the other side out, that's the only way you can quiet the voice in the other guy's mind. But most people don't do that.

Sensitivity training is a fine idea but isn't taken seriously by those who need it most.

I just always believed that all comments are better face-to-face, whether they're derogatory or whether they're not.

It only takes one clear person to have a good relationship.

We must understand that out of community and dialogue, the answers will arrive in their own time and way.

Learning is a result of listening, which in turn leads to even better listening and attentiveness to the other person. In other words, to learn from the child, we must have empathy, and empathy grows as we learn.

Our best comes out when we have honest discussions.